disappointment

It took a while for me to start dating after my divorce.

I told myself I didn’t want to date.

I said that I had way too much going on and I was busy. I had my kids and my business. I was good at being independent.

The truth is that I was afraid to open myself up to disappointment.

I was afraid to admit that I wanted a connected relationship.

I was worried that I couldn’t handle losing another relationship and feel so much sadness and loss.

I decided to give it a try anyway.

How about you?

Are you willing to open up and give it a try?
What do you tell yourself is possible for your future?
What if something great is in store?

Think about it.

A new dress

My client Sarah wants to have more confidence.

She questions herself a lot.

She doesn’t trust herself very often. She’s afraid to say what she thinks sometimes. She’s afraid of doing things wrong.

Yes, she wants to feel more confident.

She believes that more confidence will make her a better mom, a better wife, and a better coach – a new skill she is learning.

But she’s not quite sure how to get there.

We decided that she should try on a new dress.

Sometimes we can try on a belief or a feeling just like we would try on a new dress. We aren’t really sure if we love the new dress yet, but we see how it feels. We wear it around the house to see if it’s comfortable. We notice how we feel in it. We discover what we like and what we don’t.

Sarah is trying on the feeling of confidence this week. She’s playing with the belief that she’s totally capable. She’s practicing thinking she can trust herself, without totally committing to thinking that way. She’s keeping the tag on, trying the dress on to test it out, and leaving all options on the table.

What belief do you want to try on?
What feeling do you want to create for the day?
What if you find one you really love?

Give it a try and let me know what you discover.

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

Stuck

This week I spoke with Janet about how stuck she feels in her life. It seems that her life is at the mercy of her ex-husband, and the courts, and everything outside of her.

Honestly, she feels a little hopeless.

As I listened to Janet it was so clear to me that she’s feeling totally powerless to her circumstances. It seems to her that the only way she can be okay is if things go a certain way. And for things to go a certain way, she has to control what everyone else does.

No wonder she’s feeling so hopeless. Can you relate?

Whatever is happening that’s outside of your control, doesn’t get to determine how your life turns out. It doesn’t determine how you feel and it certainly doesn’t determine what’s possible for you.

YOU CREATE YOUR LIFE. I promise you that.

What if that’s really true? What if you determine your life no matter what? What’s possible then?

Think about it.

Have an amazing weekend – one thought at a time!

German

My son is in Germany right now on an orchestra trip.

He keeps sending me messages in German.

He’s sending me pictures of food and his smiling face.

It feels like he’s growing and going his own way and I can’t believe it.

I started to go down the road of – have I taught him everything I should?

Did I let the years slip away while I was distracted with life?

Should I have been more patient?

And then I remembered… I don’t want to go down that road in my brain.

I’ve taught him a lot of things. I’ve been present a lot of the time. I’ve loved him and had days where I was totally patient. Those are the things I’m going to focus on.

What about you? What parenting moments do you focus on? What you focus on grows. Focus on the amazing – it’s so much more fun.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

1 year ago

This picture was taken a year ago. I took my kids to Florida on spring break because I was determined to give them amazing experiences, single mom or not.

I refused to believe I couldn’t afford it.
I refused to believe it would be too hard.
I refused to limit what was possible.

So, we loaded up the minivan, took a couple of extra kids along, and packed the cooler with snacks.

I look back now, and I’m so glad I did.

It seems like a lifetime ago and I’m glad we seized the moment.

Things are so different now… like we are almost different people.

In this transition phase of life, things change so rapidly, and personal growth is on hyper speed.

We live in a new state now. My business is twice as big as it was then. I’ve got my ideal business partner. My kids are older, wiser, and stronger than they were then. I’m engaged to an amazing man who I absolutely adore. I’m in love with my life and ecstatic about my future.

How can you seize the day and do something amazing?

What if this phase of life is an opportunity that’s meant to be magical?

What would you do?

Think about it.

Have a beautiful weekend, you deserve it!​