Interview with LDS Sex Therapist Jennifer Finlayson-Fife


In this episode, Molly explores post-divorce questions specific to members of the Mormon/LDS faith with well-known marriage and sex therapist Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. They talk about the challenges of being a faithful Mormon committed to keeping covenants, while also being an adult who has experienced a sexual relationship before. Molly asks about common concerns and questions including fears with sex, complexities of dating after divorce, and sexual compatibility. Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s answers are insightful and a great reminder about the importance of following your internal compass.

This interview touches on:

  • Dating after divorce
  • Youth guidelines vs. adult decisions
  • Self-pleasure and what research shows
  • The importance of personal development and maturity
  • Sexual compatibility

Find more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s courses be visiting her website: http://www.finlayson-fife.com/
And you can find a link to the research sited here: http://www.finlayson-fife.com/drjenniferfife/2015/5/30/sexuality-and-singledomnavigating-with-clarity-and-integrity


 

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it’s hard

This week my son told me, “life really sucks right now.”

And sometimes, it does.

In our new neighborhood he has no friends, school seems to be the worst, and he really misses his dad too. He’s told me that he doesn’t think he has anything to look forward to.

And I know just how he feels.

Sometimes, life feels kind of awful. Sometimes we are in a waiting phase, in limbo, experiencing really hard emotions.

And sometimes, you don’t really want to be cheered up either.

I know you feel this way too sometimes.

If you’re reading this and you’re feeling the same way he is, I just want you to know – that I understand. I’m sorry that it’s hard right now.

I know how hard emotions like sadness, grief, and devastation are.

I know you want them to go away, and you wonder if they ever will.

I’m here for you and I get it.

I hope you can be there for yourself too. I hope that when you’re sad, you give yourself a tissue and tell yourself it’s okay. I hope that no matter what you’re feeling, you don’t treat yourself like anything less than amazing. I hope you can have patience while you’re in this place. And maybe remind yourself that it won’t always be this way.

I promise that’s true.

Sending you love.

P.S. Last Chance to join the 5 Day Reclaim Your Life Challenge for Single Moms. Click here to join

-Molly

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coming back to life

I’m coming back to life.

No, actually – I came back to life all in one day – just like that.

Last week, after months of struggling, I finally had that magical moment of clarity with my coach about what I need to do.

Within hours I felt myself waking up, feeling like myself again, and flowing with passion about my purpose in life.

Do you know that feeling?

Here’s what happened…

In 2017 I created an offshoot of my business based on what I thought I was “supposed” to do.

The experts in my field told me I should. I was turning away from my passion.

I tried to talk myself into it saying it was a worthy cause combined with a brilliant business plan.

The experts know what they are talking about, right?!

What do I know?

Turns out, I know a lot. I know what is genuine for me. I know what feels like the right move for me in my life and my business. I know what my true genius and passion is. And when I stay true to that – everything works.

Are you doing what you’re “supposed” to be doing, but feeling bogged down, burned out and frustrated? Really think about it.

What’s it like to think about doing what you want instead?

Doing what feels right to you?

Doing what feels like your authentic self?

Ask yourself that, and feel the energy. Really, just feel it.

Isn’t that the kind of energy you want guiding you in life?

I do. 100%

I wondered why I wasn’t myself for so long. I was pushing through and gearing up, but the light inside was always flickering. It’s easy to fool myself because I still stay positive and smile and muster up the energy I need. But inside… it just wasn’t working.

In that moment last week – the light came back.

What can you do to get your light back? What do you really want to do to stay true to you, your desires and your genius? And what will it be like to live life from that energy?

Think about it. You deserve it.

-Molly Claire

How to relieve the pressure in your life as a single mom


There’s so much pressure for women to do more and be more.  When it comes to being a single mom, you may feel extra pressure to make up the difference for your kids and their life’s circumstances.  In this episode, Molly speaks to the pressures you typically feel as a single mom and how to relieve some of those pressures.  She talks about the internal and external pressures that create so much stress for you.

She’ll cover:

  • What pressure is and where it comes from
  • How sifting through your own expectations of yourself can provide you some relief.
  • Noticing patterns of achievement that wear you out, rather than move you forward in life.
  • Letting go of trying to “make up the difference” for your kids.
  • What to do when friends or family members have judgements about how you’re living your life.
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Are you powerful? (p.s. read this blog all the way to the end)

I think you’re powerful.

And what I think, might actually matter.

Someone once told me in a low moment that I was, “powerful and vibrant.”

I didn’t think I was at the time, but I decided to believe him.

I decided to think that he saw something in me that I couldn’t see.

I wondered if it was true.

And if it was true – what might be possible?

I decided to believe it and I moved forward with determination. 

(I tell more about this story on the podcast here – it’s a good one)

With that belief, I built my business. I wrote a book. I helped my kids through the divorce process. I trained hundreds of life coaches over the space of a couple of years. I rebuilt my life one day, one emotional breakdown, and one triumph at a time.

Not because of what or who I was… but because of what I believed. 

What do you believe?…
What if you are powerful?
Vibrant? Capable? Brilliant? Determined?
What’s possible then?

Decide it’s true.

Allow that belief to move you forward to create exactly the life you want.  I know you can.

**HEY! I’ve got something for you!  

There’s a (free) 5 Day Reclaim Your Life Challenge for Single Moms coming up… ARE YOU IN?

Click here to find out more and join the challenge. 

Have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it!

-Molly