Afraid to commit

Friday Love – because you deserve it.
I have something for you today!

(and I can’t wait to tell you about it)

Dating after divorce can be fun.

And pretty scary too.

I remember when I first started dating I was afraid I might make a mistake again.

It was scary to open up to loving someone, and potentially face rejection or disappointment.

And being engaged…

has been a rollercoaster of emotions.

Yes, I help my clients manage their emotions and their lives – and still – I’m not exempt from feeling afraid.

That’s why I’m so excited about what I’ve got for you today.

My colleague Heather is an expert when it comes to fear around relationships and commitment after a divorce. She created a video that you should really check out.

The part I love most is when she explains why our brains go on high alert after experiencing divorce.

I really love her message and I know you will too.

She offers free mini sessions too and if I were you… I would be the first to schedule with her.

She’s amazing.

I can’t say enough good things about the work she does to help women like us let go of the fears and finally create a fresh start.

Click here and enjoy!

Have an amazing weekend – you deserve it!

Molly Claire on dating after divorce

This episode features an interview with Molly Claire on the Revitalize your Relationship podcast with Erin Aquin. Molly talks about her own experience of dating after divorce and the importance of knowing what you want. She talks about the fears and insecurities that come up and how to handle them. She also talks about how much more fun dating can be when you’re older, wiser, and know what you want. Tune in and take notes!

What if you couldn’t?

Christina is a single mom who can’t help but think she failed in her marriage.

Why else would her husband cheat if there wasn’t something wrong with her?

She knows what she would tell someone else, but when it comes to her – she blames herself.

I challenged Christina and I’m going to challenge you too.

“Christina – what if you weren’t allowed to think there was something wrong with you? What if it just wasn’t an option at all. What then?”

When Christina takes away that option – so many others appear. She is able to invite in other ideas that are so much truer and give her a better understanding.

What’s your thought that you keep going back to? What’s the belief that keeps you stuck, frustrated or feeling sad? What if you weren’t allowed to think it. What if it were deleted, unavailable – totally out of reach.

What might you think instead?

Give it a try.

Have an amazing weekend – you deserve it!

disappointment

It took a while for me to start dating after my divorce.

I told myself I didn’t want to date.

I said that I had way too much going on and I was busy. I had my kids and my business. I was good at being independent.

The truth is that I was afraid to open myself up to disappointment.

I was afraid to admit that I wanted a connected relationship.

I was worried that I couldn’t handle losing another relationship and feel so much sadness and loss.

I decided to give it a try anyway.

How about you?

Are you willing to open up and give it a try?
What do you tell yourself is possible for your future?
What if something great is in store?

Think about it.

A new dress

My client Sarah wants to have more confidence.

She questions herself a lot.

She doesn’t trust herself very often. She’s afraid to say what she thinks sometimes. She’s afraid of doing things wrong.

Yes, she wants to feel more confident.

She believes that more confidence will make her a better mom, a better wife, and a better coach – a new skill she is learning.

But she’s not quite sure how to get there.

We decided that she should try on a new dress.

Sometimes we can try on a belief or a feeling just like we would try on a new dress. We aren’t really sure if we love the new dress yet, but we see how it feels. We wear it around the house to see if it’s comfortable. We notice how we feel in it. We discover what we like and what we don’t.

Sarah is trying on the feeling of confidence this week. She’s playing with the belief that she’s totally capable. She’s practicing thinking she can trust herself, without totally committing to thinking that way. She’s keeping the tag on, trying the dress on to test it out, and leaving all options on the table.

What belief do you want to try on?
What feeling do you want to create for the day?
What if you find one you really love?

Give it a try and let me know what you discover.

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!