Are you rounding the bases, but never crossing home plate?

When my oldest son started little league baseball at age 4, it was the uniform that mattered most. From his hat to his cleats he felt like an all-star. His first season was a version of T-ball that had only one base. Nudging the ball off the tee with the bat and running to that base was nothing short of amazing for him. He was completely oblivious to anyone around him and simply felt satisfied to be on the team.

As time went on and he strengthened his skills, he wanted MORE out of the game. Getting a hit was no longer so easy, first base was only the beginning, and the outfield was more than just a giant sandbox. At a certain point, crossing home plate became firm in his mind as to how his team could win the game.

So often I work with clients who are having great success in “the field” aka their profession, but when it comes to the ultimate goal of having true achievement and satisfaction in their personal life – they aren’t quite meeting their goal of crossing home plate.

In baseball of course, if a hitter gets a runner across the plate, then they have had success – even if they don’t personally cross the plate. Not every player has to cross the plate for the team to win the game. However, in the game of life, only YOU can cross the plate to achieving your own personal happiness.

If you are counting on a teammate like your spouse or kids, your employees or employer, or anyone else to bring you satisfaction in your life, then you will never reach that goal.  The GOOD NEWS is that you don’t have to rely on anyone else’s skills, ambition, or actions to achieve personal satisfaction.

It’s amazing how so many of us want others to play THEIR position, so that we can succeed. I have seen enormous changes in my clients when they are willing to take responsibility for their personal success, strengthen themselves, and ultimately decide whether or not they will make the winning play in their life.

Here are 3 tips to consider:

  1. Take responsibility for your happiness and success. Blaming others for your unhappiness is simply a way to avoid facing the ways that you fall short. It also leaves you feeling powerless, after all, you can only control what YOU do. You are the creator of your thoughts – thoughts lead to feelings and action. Think pro-active. If you want to cross the plate, do what YOU can to make it happen.
  2. Choose activities that make your life meaningful. What is meaningful to you? What things in life have brought you fulfillment and purpose? Are you doing those things? Often we let life set our agenda, instead of setting our own agenda with a goal in mind. Engaging in activities that are meaningful for you is food for the soul – it will increase your happiness and make you a better person.
  3. Shift the way you think about challenging relationships. Often we choose 2 default options when it comes to relationship challenges – we continue to try to improve things in exactly the same way (even though it hasn’t been working), or we avoid the relationship altogether. Successful people understand the art of being able to think differently in any given circumstance. Relationship coaching is a powerful way to do this. Change your thoughts – change your life!

If you’ve been rounding the bases, but not crossing the plate for long enough – maybe it’s time to THINK differently about your approach. Are YOU ready to bring it home?


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