Is there anyone out there?

My client Sue wonders if she will ever really find someone to be her partner.

She had a great marriage for years. It was happy and connected. She loved her life.

Why did it have to change? How will she find that same happiness now?

Will she always be alone?

These are the things she wonders.

You may wonder these things too.

I know what it’s like to wonder if your life can really be what you want it to be. I know what it’s like to have a drastic change in your life and feel extreme loss and sadness. I know the feeling of lonely. And I know that lonely is hard.

I also know that life has shown me time and again (for me and my clients) that life is happening exactly as it’s supposed to.

I know that the worst things ironically turn out to be the best things.

I know that if you decide you want happiness in your life – you can and will create it.

I’m excited for you and all that your future holds.

It’s going to be magical. Don’t you think?

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

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Butter + Chex

My mom worked a lot when I was a kid – doing whatever it took to make ends meet.

I didn’t get to spend nearly as much time with her as I wanted.

But the time we spent I always loved.

I remember one night she came home and said if we got ready for bed quickly she was going to make a treat. My brother and I were so excited.

She put Corn Chex in a bowl and poured melted butter on it, then topped it with salt.

Like popcorn, but not.

I think it took her 2 minutes to make the whole thing – but it was so fun.

A treat on a weeknight. Eating it with my mom. I bet she thought nothing of it, but over 3 decades later and I still remember. The excitement, the connection. Feeling loved and important.

A few days ago my daughter put her cupcake apron on and we made the Chex treat. She thought it was the best thing in the world. Especially since we wore our aprons and made it together.

The way my daughter talks about it you would think it was a great bake-off.

All it took was a box of Chex, butter, salt, and 5 minutes of my time.

Those little moments to connect speak volumes. Sometimes we think we need to do something big or extravagant. Or we compare what we are doing with others. We don’t need to do any of that.

Create a moment, and enjoy it to the fullest.

Have a beautiful weekend- you deserve it.

What if you couldn’t?

Christina is a single mom who can’t help but think she failed in her marriage.

Why else would her husband cheat if there wasn’t something wrong with her?

She knows what she would tell someone else, but when it comes to her – she blames herself.

I challenged Christina and I’m going to challenge you too.

“Christina – what if you weren’t allowed to think there was something wrong with you? What if it just wasn’t an option at all. What then?”

When Christina takes away that option – so many others appear. She is able to invite in other ideas that are so much truer and give her a better understanding.

What’s your thought that you keep going back to? What’s the belief that keeps you stuck, frustrated or feeling sad? What if you weren’t allowed to think it. What if it were deleted, unavailable – totally out of reach.

What might you think instead?

Give it a try.

Have an amazing weekend – you deserve it!

disappointment

It took a while for me to start dating after my divorce.

I told myself I didn’t want to date.

I said that I had way too much going on and I was busy. I had my kids and my business. I was good at being independent.

The truth is that I was afraid to open myself up to disappointment.

I was afraid to admit that I wanted a connected relationship.

I was worried that I couldn’t handle losing another relationship and feel so much sadness and loss.

I decided to give it a try anyway.

How about you?

Are you willing to open up and give it a try?
What do you tell yourself is possible for your future?
What if something great is in store?

Think about it.

A new dress

My client Sarah wants to have more confidence.

She questions herself a lot.

She doesn’t trust herself very often. She’s afraid to say what she thinks sometimes. She’s afraid of doing things wrong.

Yes, she wants to feel more confident.

She believes that more confidence will make her a better mom, a better wife, and a better coach – a new skill she is learning.

But she’s not quite sure how to get there.

We decided that she should try on a new dress.

Sometimes we can try on a belief or a feeling just like we would try on a new dress. We aren’t really sure if we love the new dress yet, but we see how it feels. We wear it around the house to see if it’s comfortable. We notice how we feel in it. We discover what we like and what we don’t.

Sarah is trying on the feeling of confidence this week. She’s playing with the belief that she’s totally capable. She’s practicing thinking she can trust herself, without totally committing to thinking that way. She’s keeping the tag on, trying the dress on to test it out, and leaving all options on the table.

What belief do you want to try on?
What feeling do you want to create for the day?
What if you find one you really love?

Give it a try and let me know what you discover.

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!