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it’s hard

This week my son told me, “life really sucks right now.”

And sometimes, it does.

In our new neighborhood he has no friends, school seems to be the worst, and he really misses his dad too. He’s told me that he doesn’t think he has anything to look forward to.

And I know just how he feels.

Sometimes, life feels kind of awful. Sometimes we are in a waiting phase, in limbo, experiencing really hard emotions.

And sometimes, you don’t really want to be cheered up either.

I know you feel this way too sometimes.

If you’re reading this and you’re feeling the same way he is, I just want you to know – that I understand. I’m sorry that it’s hard right now.

I know how hard emotions like sadness, grief, and devastation are.

I know you want them to go away, and you wonder if they ever will.

I’m here for you and I get it.

I hope you can be there for yourself too. I hope that when you’re sad, you give yourself a tissue and tell yourself it’s okay. I hope that no matter what you’re feeling, you don’t treat yourself like anything less than amazing. I hope you can have patience while you’re in this place. And maybe remind yourself that it won’t always be this way.

I promise that’s true.

Sending you love.

P.S. Last Chance to join the 5 Day Reclaim Your Life Challenge for Single Moms. Click here to join

-Molly

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Are you powerful? (p.s. read this blog all the way to the end)

I think you’re powerful.

And what I think, might actually matter.

Someone once told me in a low moment that I was, “powerful and vibrant.”

I didn’t think I was at the time, but I decided to believe him.

I decided to think that he saw something in me that I couldn’t see.

I wondered if it was true.

And if it was true – what might be possible?

I decided to believe it and I moved forward with determination. 

(I tell more about this story on the podcast here – it’s a good one)

With that belief, I built my business. I wrote a book. I helped my kids through the divorce process. I trained hundreds of life coaches over the space of a couple of years. I rebuilt my life one day, one emotional breakdown, and one triumph at a time.

Not because of what or who I was… but because of what I believed. 

What do you believe?…
What if you are powerful?
Vibrant? Capable? Brilliant? Determined?
What’s possible then?

Decide it’s true.

Allow that belief to move you forward to create exactly the life you want.  I know you can.

**HEY! I’ve got something for you!  

There’s a (free) 5 Day Reclaim Your Life Challenge for Single Moms coming up… ARE YOU IN?

Click here to find out more and join the challenge. 

Have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it!

-Molly

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Holiday Emotions

This week on the podcast I talked about the strong emotions we feel over the holidays.

Sadness, anxiety, jealousy, worry… just to name a few.

My client Janet is avoiding holiday parties because it’s her first Christmas after divorce. It seems too painful to go, when she anticipates such strong emotions are sure to come up.

The only thing Janet is avoiding – is an emotion.

Think about that.

An emotion. A feeling in her body. A strong feeling… that is really scary to her.

But in truth – she can handle any emotion that comes her way.

We go to great lengths to avoid feelings because we think we can’t handle them. But we always can.

What emotion are you avoiding? What if you can allow that feeling? What if you can cry sometimes without shoving it down? What if you no longer have to fear the way you’ll feel?

What would you do then?…

Think about it.

Click to learn more about How to Handle your Emotions like a Boss on the podcast.

Have a beautiful weekend and an amazing Christmas– you deserve it!

-Molly Claire

Holiday Jealousy

Christina worries that her kids have more fun with their dad and his new girlfriend over the holidays than they do with her.

It’s really hard for her.

It’s so hard for her that she begins to overextend herself and overspend her budget… to try to win them over.

When they are with their dad, she feels terrible.

She wishes she didn’t feel so jealous, resentful, and inadequate.

The reason she feels that way is that she is making the good relationship with their dad, mean something about their relationship with her.

She thinks if one relationship is amazing, the other one can’t be.

It’s as if there is a relationship budget – only so much happiness and connection to go around.

The truth is that the relationship they have with him, has nothing to do with the relationship they have with her.

They can love him, and they can love her. They can have fun with his girlfriend, and it means absolutely nothing about how her kids feel about her.

And the same is true for you…

If you want to hear more about this topic – CLICK HERE to sign up for my free webinar on Holiday Success for Single Moms. I address 3 main issues that single moms face over the holidays (and how to solve them). It’s totally worth carving out 30 minutes to join me. I’ll even answer your questions live.

Can’t wait to see you then!

Until then, have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it!

-Molly Claire

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he was furious

My son was furious with me this week.

He wanted to do something and I said no.

I didn’t think it was in his best interest at all.

I say yes most of the time – whenever I can.

But this time, it was a no.

He threw a teenage tantrum. He said mean things to me. He was unreasonable and pushing every last limit in the way he was behaving.

And I decided it was okay. I held the line. I drew some personal boundaries for myself and let him freak out in the way he wanted to, as long as it didn’t cross into my space.

Sometimes your kids don’t like what you have to say, and maybe that’s okay.

They can think and feel a lot of negative things about you, and it doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong.

You can stay peaceful, even when they aren’t.

Give it a try.

Have a great day -one thought at a time!