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Butter + Chex

My mom worked a lot when I was a kid – doing whatever it took to make ends meet.

I didn’t get to spend nearly as much time with her as I wanted.

But the time we spent I always loved.

I remember one night she came home and said if we got ready for bed quickly she was going to make a treat. My brother and I were so excited.

She put Corn Chex in a bowl and poured melted butter on it, then topped it with salt.

Like popcorn, but not.

I think it took her 2 minutes to make the whole thing – but it was so fun.

A treat on a weeknight. Eating it with my mom. I bet she thought nothing of it, but over 3 decades later and I still remember. The excitement, the connection. Feeling loved and important.

A few days ago my daughter put her cupcake apron on and we made the Chex treat. She thought it was the best thing in the world. Especially since we wore our aprons and made it together.

The way my daughter talks about it you would think it was a great bake-off.

All it took was a box of Chex, butter, salt, and 5 minutes of my time.

Those little moments to connect speak volumes. Sometimes we think we need to do something big or extravagant. Or we compare what we are doing with others. We don’t need to do any of that.

Create a moment, and enjoy it to the fullest.

Have a beautiful weekend- you deserve it.

disappointment

It took a while for me to start dating after my divorce.

I told myself I didn’t want to date.

I said that I had way too much going on and I was busy. I had my kids and my business. I was good at being independent.

The truth is that I was afraid to open myself up to disappointment.

I was afraid to admit that I wanted a connected relationship.

I was worried that I couldn’t handle losing another relationship and feel so much sadness and loss.

I decided to give it a try anyway.

How about you?

Are you willing to open up and give it a try?
What do you tell yourself is possible for your future?
What if something great is in store?

Think about it.

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35 years ago

This mug pictured here was a gift from my mom on Valentine’s day when I was 5. I woke up to this mug full of candy, but my mom was already gone… at work before the sun was up.

I’m pretty sure she worried she wasn’t doing enough as a mom. As a single mom she was stretched thin, worn out, and worried about her kids. Just like you and me – I’m guessing she worried about failing as a mom.

Yesterday, 35 years later, I was drinking from it – still feeling of her love and thoughtfulness. Grateful for the person she was, not just what she did. Grateful for her unconditional love, even though sometimes she was short on patience or just didn’t have extra time to spend with me.

Her presence in my life has been an unbelievable foundation for me, and continues to be even now that she has been gone for almost 2 decades.

I know you wonder sometimes if you’re doing enough. You worry how your kids will turn out. You’re often riddled with worry and guilt.

And today I want to suggest that you stop.
For just a minute.
Stop and breathe.

Love your kids.
Be kind to yourself so they will know how to be kind to themselves too.
Give yourself a break.
Take a minute to enjoy.
Just be in their life. That’s all they need.

Have an amazing weekend, you deserve it!

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it’s hard

This week my son told me, “life really sucks right now.”

And sometimes, it does.

In our new neighborhood he has no friends, school seems to be the worst, and he really misses his dad too. He’s told me that he doesn’t think he has anything to look forward to.

And I know just how he feels.

Sometimes, life feels kind of awful. Sometimes we are in a waiting phase, in limbo, experiencing really hard emotions.

And sometimes, you don’t really want to be cheered up either.

I know you feel this way too sometimes.

If you’re reading this and you’re feeling the same way he is, I just want you to know – that I understand. I’m sorry that it’s hard right now.

I know how hard emotions like sadness, grief, and devastation are.

I know you want them to go away, and you wonder if they ever will.

I’m here for you and I get it.

I hope you can be there for yourself too. I hope that when you’re sad, you give yourself a tissue and tell yourself it’s okay. I hope that no matter what you’re feeling, you don’t treat yourself like anything less than amazing. I hope you can have patience while you’re in this place. And maybe remind yourself that it won’t always be this way.

I promise that’s true.

Sending you love.

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-Molly

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Are you powerful? (p.s. read this blog all the way to the end)

I think you’re powerful.

And what I think, might actually matter.

Someone once told me in a low moment that I was, “powerful and vibrant.”

I didn’t think I was at the time, but I decided to believe him.

I decided to think that he saw something in me that I couldn’t see.

I wondered if it was true.

And if it was true – what might be possible?

I decided to believe it and I moved forward with determination. 

(I tell more about this story on the podcast here – it’s a good one)

With that belief, I built my business. I wrote a book. I helped my kids through the divorce process. I trained hundreds of life coaches over the space of a couple of years. I rebuilt my life one day, one emotional breakdown, and one triumph at a time.

Not because of what or who I was… but because of what I believed. 

What do you believe?…
What if you are powerful?
Vibrant? Capable? Brilliant? Determined?
What’s possible then?

Decide it’s true.

Allow that belief to move you forward to create exactly the life you want.  I know you can.

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Have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it!

-Molly