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unexpected family

Last weekend my daughter was baptized, and it was honestly like a dream come true.

For her, and for me.

The pictures didn’t look the way I expected they would 8 years ago.

The dream I had then, was not the dream that came true this weekend.

Except in all the ways it was exactly the same dream.

I didn’t know then that I would be a single mom.

I didn’t expect that she would have a bonus mom and a half-sibling on the way.

I didn’t realize that my in-laws, who I adore, would be “ex” in-laws.

And I certainly never would have believed that I would feel so grateful about all of it.

The dream looked so different, but the love, connection, and happiness that I really wanted – was all there.

I feel so blessed that even though things don’t always go as planned, God grants us greater blessings than we can ever imagine.

I’m so grateful that my kids get to have even more people in their life that love them.

What a gift.

Even when your hopes and dreams seem to be out of reach, the experience you want can always happen. Create the relationships you want.

Keep focused on what’s most important. Allow God to work miracles.

Have an amazing day, one thought at a time!

– Molly

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my secret brain drama

My daughter is getting baptized this Saturday and I’ve been feeling so nervous.

Her dad and his wife are coming and so are my ex-in-laws. I love all of them, but all week I’ve been getting in their business.

Do you know what I mean by that?

When you’re getting in someone’s business, you’re guessing what they are thinking and feeling.

You’re getting into their head and their emotions… as if you belong there.

And that’s what I was doing.

I want to invite them and love them like always, but my brain keeps thinking,

“They don’t want to be around you.”
“They are upset with you.”
“She doesn’t like you.”
“He is mad at me.”

NONE. Of. My business.

Most likely they aren’t thinking about me at all. And maybe they are thinking some good things. Perhaps they are wondering what I’m thinking of them.

I don’t really know. But I know it’s none of my business.

My business is to keep loving them.
My business is to invite them to come over, because that’s what I want to do.
My business is to decide how I want to think and feel, no matter what.

I think it’s going to be a great weekend.
I think my daughter is lucky to have so many amazing people in her life.
I think I’m going to appreciate every minute, no matter what.

Have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it.

-Molly Claire

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in love

Last weekend at my daughter’s birthday party I had a beautiful glimpse into what life offers us if we’ll let it.

My friend Sherry was there and she is totally in love.

She got remarried last spring after way too many years of being a mom of 5 totally solo. There was a time when she felt broken, just like you’ve felt too.

My friend Angie hosted the party with her beautiful blended family of 3 years. She and I went through our divorces together and I remember a time that it was so painful for both of us. Wondering what to do, how to get through it, and how to pick up the pieces.

My friend Claire was there looking more confident and grounded than ever. She’s one of the most amazing women I know and it’s been awesome to watch her grow personally post-divorce. I’m so inspired by her, I can’t get over it.

And me? I’ve got some great things happening too 😉

If you’re hurting or sad or hopeless right now – it won’t last forever.

Trust the process of life.

Good things are in store.

The best is yet to come.

I believe.

HEY! By the way – I’ve added a private community for my single mom membership – want to join us? Email me at molly@mollyclaire.com for the details – we’d love to have you.

Have a beautiful weekend!

xo

-Molly Claire

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royal treatment

Wednesday in my Single Mom group we talked about setting the bar high when it comes to dating. We talked about deciding what you want and not settling for anything less.

We talked about committing to only allowing people into your life who treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

And do you know where that begins? With YOU.

What do you say to yourself when you wake up in the morning?
What do you say to yourself when you think you’ve made a mistake?
When you’re stuck or frustrated, how much compassion do you offer yourself?

The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have in your life.

Make it a good one.

Be kind to you. Offer yourself compassion just because you’re human.
Give yourself the royal treatment by believing in yourself.

Have an amazing weekend – you deserve it <3
xo

-Molly Claire

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the hardest thing

The hardest emotion for me lately is guilt.
It seems I’m just swimming in it.

And it’s not a leisurely trip to the pool swim either.
It’s more like swimming upstream in the middle of a storm.

I keep working through the guilt.  And it keeps coming back.
I feel guilty that I’m not doing more.  

That I’m not more organized. 
That I don’t have endless energy.
That I’m asking for help from my sister, my neighbor, or friends. 

On and on the thoughts go – all creating guilt.

I want the guilt to go away.  I want to tell myself it shouldn’t be there.  I want to talk myself out of it.  

But instead, I’ve decided to let guilt stay there for a minute.

I’m going to stop resisting it.

I’m going to ask it what it wants from me.

I’ll find out what message it’s trying to send me.

Then I’ll determine if it’s worth listening too or not.

I know you feel guilty sometimes too.  There is no need to resist it.  And you don’t need to believe it either. 

Have a conversation with it.  Allow it to be heard.  Find out how to make peace with it, rather than fighting with it.

Let me know how it goes.  And I’ll let you know the same. 

Have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it! 

-Molly Claire