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easier than ever

Next week my kids will be with their dad for Thanksgiving and it feels so easy.

The first time they were away, it didn’t feel so easy.

And the first Christmas away, seemed like the worst.

But my brain has re-framed the way we experience life, and it’s easier than ever.

I’m traveling for the holiday and looking forward to having a great time with so many people I love.

My kids will have fun and send me some great pictures.

I won’t have to cook, mash potatoes, or do dishes.

It’s so much more fun to embrace what is and love everything life has to offer.

I hope you can do the same.

Sending you so much love as you gear up for the holiday week.

Have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it!

xo

-Molly

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feelings hurt

Last week I hurt my own feelings.

I used to think that other people could hurt my feelings. I thought my ex-husband could make me feel “bad.” I thought my kids could make me feel unappreciated. I gave them all of my power.

Last week my son was frustrated with his sister. He said that I’m not doing a good job parenting her. He said she needs more limits and that I never do anything about it.

And I really hurt my feelings when he said that.

I had a lot of thoughts that caused me to feel bad.

“You need to do better.” “You’re not doing enough.” “You’re failing as a mom.”

Those are the thoughts that I had, and they really hurt.

I decided to remind myself of the big wins that I have every day. And I decided to look at what small changes I want to make to do better. Because the truth is that nothing he said would have mattered, if I didn’t believe it.

If you’re feelings get hurt, ask yourself what you are thinking that’s causing you to feel hurt. Notice that your thoughts are the ones that matter. And you get to decide how you think, always.

Have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it!

-Molly Claire

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unexpected family

Last weekend my daughter was baptized, and it was honestly like a dream come true.

For her, and for me.

The pictures didn’t look the way I expected they would 8 years ago.

The dream I had then, was not the dream that came true this weekend.

Except in all the ways it was exactly the same dream.

I didn’t know then that I would be a single mom.

I didn’t expect that she would have a bonus mom and a half-sibling on the way.

I didn’t realize that my in-laws, who I adore, would be “ex” in-laws.

And I certainly never would have believed that I would feel so grateful about all of it.

The dream looked so different, but the love, connection, and happiness that I really wanted – was all there.

I feel so blessed that even though things don’t always go as planned, God grants us greater blessings than we can ever imagine.

I’m so grateful that my kids get to have even more people in their life that love them.

What a gift.

Even when your hopes and dreams seem to be out of reach, the experience you want can always happen. Create the relationships you want.

Keep focused on what’s most important. Allow God to work miracles.

Have an amazing day, one thought at a time!

– Molly

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my secret brain drama

My daughter is getting baptized this Saturday and I’ve been feeling so nervous.

Her dad and his wife are coming and so are my ex-in-laws. I love all of them, but all week I’ve been getting in their business.

Do you know what I mean by that?

When you’re getting in someone’s business, you’re guessing what they are thinking and feeling.

You’re getting into their head and their emotions… as if you belong there.

And that’s what I was doing.

I want to invite them and love them like always, but my brain keeps thinking,

“They don’t want to be around you.”
“They are upset with you.”
“She doesn’t like you.”
“He is mad at me.”

NONE. Of. My business.

Most likely they aren’t thinking about me at all. And maybe they are thinking some good things. Perhaps they are wondering what I’m thinking of them.

I don’t really know. But I know it’s none of my business.

My business is to keep loving them.
My business is to invite them to come over, because that’s what I want to do.
My business is to decide how I want to think and feel, no matter what.

I think it’s going to be a great weekend.
I think my daughter is lucky to have so many amazing people in her life.
I think I’m going to appreciate every minute, no matter what.

Have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it.

-Molly Claire

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in love

Last weekend at my daughter’s birthday party I had a beautiful glimpse into what life offers us if we’ll let it.

My friend Sherry was there and she is totally in love.

She got remarried last spring after way too many years of being a mom of 5 totally solo. There was a time when she felt broken, just like you’ve felt too.

My friend Angie hosted the party with her beautiful blended family of 3 years. She and I went through our divorces together and I remember a time that it was so painful for both of us. Wondering what to do, how to get through it, and how to pick up the pieces.

My friend Claire was there looking more confident and grounded than ever. She’s one of the most amazing women I know and it’s been awesome to watch her grow personally post-divorce. I’m so inspired by her, I can’t get over it.

And me? I’ve got some great things happening too 😉

If you’re hurting or sad or hopeless right now – it won’t last forever.

Trust the process of life.

Good things are in store.

The best is yet to come.

I believe.

HEY! By the way – I’ve added a private community for my single mom membership – want to join us? Email me at molly@mollyclaire.com for the details – we’d love to have you.

Have a beautiful weekend!

xo

-Molly Claire