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teen trouble

I love my teenagers. And all the teenagers that come and go at my house.

A lot of people don’t feel that way about teens, I know.

It’s hard when they do all the teenager things we don’t think they should be doing.

Really hard.

But the only thing that gets in the way of love (and loving teenagers) is fear.
Fear is always what keeps us from love.

Do you feel afraid that your teen is going to make huge mistakes?
Do you worry that you haven’t done enough to protect them?
Or that you’re not doing enough now?

This fear and worry drives us to tighten the reigns too tight and listen to every fearful thought our brain is offering us.

The truth is, they will make mistakes.

You can’t really protect them from life.

And maybe you can always do more… but perhaps you’re not supposed to.

Let’s love our kids when they lie and when they break the rules and when they get in big trouble.

Let’s love ourselves by offering ourselves grace (after all we are trying to figure this out).

Walk that line between rules and freedom and do it all with love. Love is more powerful than any of us realize.

Have an amazing Friday – you deserve it.

do it your way

This week on the podcast I interviewed my good friend Sherry, who talked about her ninja skills as a single mom of 5 kids.

She doesn’t think they’re ninja skills, but I can see so clearly that they are.

Her divorce was the last thing she wanted.
5 kids, finances, life… all on her shoulders.

And the bravest thing she did… was doing things her way, rather than thinking that someone else knew what was best for her family.

More often than not, that meant laughing with her kids daily, rather than having family home evening at 5:30pm each Monday night.

Sometimes it meant rejuvenating from a long work week on Sunday with a quiet day at home, rather than dragging her crew to church.

It meant releasing the guilt and taking care of herself and her needs, so she could be the woman and mom she really wanted to be.

Her ninja skills are too many to count.

A few of my favorites are…

Her ability to love her kids like crazy.

Her gift of connecting with them and meeting them where they are.

Her creativity in figuring out how to do life.

And the best… her commitment to staying true to herself and what’s best for her – no matter what anyone else thinks.

Sherry was my walking buddy, shoulder to cry on, and my mentor in dating after divorce.

I love her and I bet you will too.

Click here to listen.

Have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it!

-Molly Claire

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Who will you become in 2019


It’s common to set goals at the beginning of the year, but do you ever think about who you want to become?  In this episode Molly speaks to the importance of imagining who you want to be and how you want your life to be different.  Often times we set goals of achievement in an attempt to prove our worth.  We think if we do more, that we will somehow be more.  Molly shares with you thoughts on your infinite worth and how it’s not really up to you to determine your worth.  Your worth is set and any changes you make in your life are about growing and progressing as a person.  She will share with you 5 simple steps you can take to imagine the new you that you’re becoming this year.  This episode will cover:

  • Your infinite worth – why and how it’s not negotiable.
  • The difference between setting goals from feelings of inadequacy vs. creating a vision while feeling content with who you are.
  • Great questions to ask as you set your vision for the new year
  • The process of thinking in a new way in order to make the changes you want.

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he was furious

My son was furious with me this week.

He wanted to do something and I said no.

I didn’t think it was in his best interest at all.

I say yes most of the time – whenever I can.

But this time, it was a no.

He threw a teenage tantrum. He said mean things to me. He was unreasonable and pushing every last limit in the way he was behaving.

And I decided it was okay. I held the line. I drew some personal boundaries for myself and let him freak out in the way he wanted to, as long as it didn’t cross into my space.

Sometimes your kids don’t like what you have to say, and maybe that’s okay.

They can think and feel a lot of negative things about you, and it doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong.

You can stay peaceful, even when they aren’t.

Give it a try.

Have a great day -one thought at a time!

Building Confidence as a Single Mom


Now is the perfect time to build greater confidence.  In this episode, Molly teaches three key components of self-confidence and teaches you how to get started today to improve. Divorce can cause your self-esteem and confidence to take a hit, but this challenging experience is exactly what can catapult your confidence in your abilities to a new level.

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • The importance of your self-talk and how to improve it
  • How feeling negative emotions can actually make you more confident
  • How to increase your ability to trust yourself
  • Why your experience of divorce has the potential to make you more confident than ever