Divorced Mormon Mom podcast is for women navigating life after divorce when their lives didn’t exactly go as planned. As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Molly understands the struggles many women experience including not fitting in at church, conflict with doctrine and the reality of your life, how to create a thriving family life even when it isn’t the “ideal,” and how to have healing and hope for a bright future. Molly is a Master-Certified Life Coach and Life Coach instructor with the Life Coach School. As an Amazon best-selling author of The Happy Mom Mindset, Molly specializes in happy, confident, guilt-free motherhood. This podcast is to create connection and to empower women to raise their kids with confidence and create an amazing life they love.

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How to stop feeling overwhelmed

Most single moms feel overwhelmed way too often.  They feel like the weight they carry is too much to handle and they wonder how they’ll do it all on their own.  In this week’s episode Molly teaches you why you feel overwhelmed to begin with and how you can create different emotions instead.

She’ll share with you a few tips as well as she covers:

  • Why you feel overwhelmed
  • How to feel capable and confident instead
  • A quick and easy trick to allow you to feel more in control of your schedule.
  • How guilt creates more overwhelm, and how to release it
  • Why believing in yourself is one of the most effective things you’ll ever do in your life.

Make sure you take her up on the challenge at the end of the episode and see how it changes your life.

When you don’t fit in at church

Molly addresses the common feeling of “not fitting in” at church after divorce.  She shares her personal situation growing up in a single parent home and also her own process of divorce. The key to your experience of church is your thoughts and beliefs.  She’ll share with you the truth that no one outside of you can actually determine if you belong.  By adopting some powerful beliefs about you, your family and where you fit in you can create more connection in any situation.

She also addresses how kids fit into this picture.  It can be challenging to be around so many families that look different than yours, and still feel like you belong.  By setting the precedence for your kids you can empower them to feel accepted and loved no matter what.

Divorce early in life: An interview with Breian Elliot

In this interview episode, Molly speaks with Breian Elliot who shares her story of going through a divorce at the age of 21.  As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Breian shares what it was like to be divorced and dating again at a young age.  She speaks to the judgements that she overcame and how that helped her to become even stronger.  She shares her experience of making the decision to get divorced and the mental process she had to go through as she moved forward.

Now remarried and a mother of 6, you’ll be inspired by Breian in this interview. You’ll surely relate to some of the commonalties that Molly and Breian share and gain some insights into how you can move forward as well.

Fear of Judgement

  1. Fear of judgement keeps us hiding. Keeps us from showing up.  Creates so much sadness for us when we don’t show up.  For you this may mean that you don’t engage as much, aren’t outgoing? How often do you fear it?  Where in your life do you fear it?  How is that impacting you?
  2. Someone judging you cannot hurt you. Your thoughts create your feelings.  Think about a time when you were certain someone thought something of you and how upset you were about it.  Then you found out you were totally wrong and felt differently.  Wasn’t the judgement, but your thoughts about the judgement.  Right now people are judging you and you don’t even know it – so it’s not impacting you.
  3. Other people’s judgments about you are really about them. They are judging based on their perception and on their experience.  They are also judging you based on their values.  Think about something someone would judge you for that wouldn’t bother me.  Having kids for example.  Can you let people judge you?  They will anyway, so what if you can just decide that it’s okay?
  4. The real issue is how you are judging you.  Write down all the things you believe someone is judging you for.  Not look at that list – is that how you judge yourself?  Maybe not on the surface, but underneath?  I find that is always the case for my clients.

My story.

It was my judgements about me that were the problem – not hers.

I could handle that emotion and come through on the other side okay.

I could learn to have my own back. I could take a closer look at the ways I need to be kinder to myself.

Take the time to think about the questions I proposed today.  Remember that no one else’s judgements about you can actually hurt you.  Only your thoughts about them will hurt you.  And your judgments about you are the real problem.  Are you willing to do your best and allow yourself some grace?  Are you willing to accept that you aren’t perfect and you were never supposed to be?  Notice the conversations you have with yourself and see if they are shutting you down or moving you toward the person you want to be.

The Thought Model

Today we are talking about how to feel better.  Yes, it’s true – we have the power to feel better in our daily lives.  I’ll be sharing with you the thought model that will help you understand how to make your life better.  The way we perceive our life and circumstances has a profound impact on how we feel and what we are able to do.  I share my own example as well as a client example of how our thinking impacts our feelings and our results in life.  In this episode you’ll learn:

  1. Understand how your brain impacts the way you feel and the success you have in life
  2. How to identify why you feel the way you do now
  3. Get a glimpse into what needs to change so you can feel better more often
  4. See a neutral perspective on your life so you can see more possibilities for your future