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Yesterday my son told me I’m resilient.

“Really?” I asked.

I don’t feel very resilient.

I often feel like a wimp.

And I get emotional about things.

And I feel like I don’t always handle life very well.

Can you relate?

He told me that’s not true. He said I’m tough and resilient.

And you know what, he’s right.

I’m resilient and so are you.

Just because we don’t feel on top of life all of the time – doesn’t mean we aren’t handling it really well.

My marriage, my divorce, and my single mom phase helped me grow into a stronger person.

Listen up – you’re pretty tough. You are resilient. You are strong.

You are nothing short of amazing.

Have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it!

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shame

It’s your *Friday Love Note* and shame

I met an amazing single mama this week. When she found out that I was a coach for single moms, she was so excited! Then I mentioned that I focus on helping women through divorce and her demeanor changed – I could see her shrink into herself a little bit as she told me she was never married.

I imagine she thought I would have a negative judgment about that.

I recognized the shift in her demeanor and the shame that came up, because I see it in my clients all the time for a million different reasons. (I’ve seen it in myself too.)

My clients feel shame that…

They got pregnant before getting married.
Their husband cheated on them, which means they weren’t enough.
Their husband left them.
They left their husband.
They are the only one in their family who is divorced.
They think they’ve failed their kids.

So many reasons they feel shame, and yet, none of them need to be reasons to feel shame at all.

Shame is a lie always and forever. Shame tells you that you’re bad and there is something wrong with you. Shame tells you to hide. Shame will shut down the best parts of you and it’s totally unnecessary.

The list above, is just a list of evidences that we are all human. We are living a human experience, in an imperfect world, as imperfect people, relating to other imperfect people.

I love that single mom I met. I love you reading this. And I love myself too. Not because of what we did or didn’t do, but because we are humans worth loving.

Shame is a lie. Don’t believe it.

You are of infinite worth.

Have an amazing weekend – you deserve it!

-Molly Claire