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Understanding

Do you ever wish someone understood how you were feeling?

I know that feeling…

Lately I’ve been feeling like an anomaly.

Like my experience and challenges and hurts are so different from everyone else. I find myself trying to find someone who understands.

I know you’ve felt that way too.

Maybe for you your marriage was hard, and you were relieved to have it end.

Maybe your marriage was amazing, and you felt heartbroken and betrayed when it was over.

Maybe you feel like a failure.

Maybe you feel judged.

Maybe you feel hopeless or alone.

Maybe you feel a lot of things and you seem to be so different from everyone else.

Can you relate?

This is always the time that I remind myself of one of my core beliefs – God understands. At the deepest level, he knows exactly what I’m feeling. He cares that I feel that way.

God knows you.

He understands how you feel.

Even if no one else does – he gets it.

Have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it.

fragile

My client was feeling really fragile yesterday.

She didn’t like that she felt that way.

She was thinking her life was a bit of a mess.

And she didn’t like that either.

Feeling fragile or having your life seem like “a mess,” isn’t a problem.

It’s only a problem when we make it mean that we aren’t strong or capable of handling our life.

Personally, I feel fragile pretty often.

And my life… often looks really messy.

I have to remind myself that it’s okay for me to be human and to feel and be exactly the way I am.

What about you? Can you relate to feeling this way?

If so, I wonder if you can allow yourself to be human today and not make it mean anything about how strong you are.

I wonder if you can totally drop the ball on a lot of things, and still have a handle on a lot of things that are important.

I wonder if today you can see the good and accept the “messy” parts of your life as perfect the way they are.

Think about it.

Have a beautiful weekend- you deserve it!

Is there anyone out there?

My client Sue wonders if she will ever really find someone to be her partner.

She had a great marriage for years. It was happy and connected. She loved her life.

Why did it have to change? How will she find that same happiness now?

Will she always be alone?

These are the things she wonders.

You may wonder these things too.

I know what it’s like to wonder if your life can really be what you want it to be. I know what it’s like to have a drastic change in your life and feel extreme loss and sadness. I know the feeling of lonely. And I know that lonely is hard.

I also know that life has shown me time and again (for me and my clients) that life is happening exactly as it’s supposed to.

I know that the worst things ironically turn out to be the best things.

I know that if you decide you want happiness in your life – you can and will create it.

I’m excited for you and all that your future holds.

It’s going to be magical. Don’t you think?

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

disappointment

It took a while for me to start dating after my divorce.

I told myself I didn’t want to date.

I said that I had way too much going on and I was busy. I had my kids and my business. I was good at being independent.

The truth is that I was afraid to open myself up to disappointment.

I was afraid to admit that I wanted a connected relationship.

I was worried that I couldn’t handle losing another relationship and feel so much sadness and loss.

I decided to give it a try anyway.

How about you?

Are you willing to open up and give it a try?
What do you tell yourself is possible for your future?
What if something great is in store?

Think about it.

Stuck

This week I spoke with Janet about how stuck she feels in her life. It seems that her life is at the mercy of her ex-husband, and the courts, and everything outside of her.

Honestly, she feels a little hopeless.

As I listened to Janet it was so clear to me that she’s feeling totally powerless to her circumstances. It seems to her that the only way she can be okay is if things go a certain way. And for things to go a certain way, she has to control what everyone else does.

No wonder she’s feeling so hopeless. Can you relate?

Whatever is happening that’s outside of your control, doesn’t get to determine how your life turns out. It doesn’t determine how you feel and it certainly doesn’t determine what’s possible for you.

YOU CREATE YOUR LIFE. I promise you that.

What if that’s really true? What if you determine your life no matter what? What’s possible then?

Think about it.

Have an amazing weekend – one thought at a time!