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Is there anyone out there?

My client Sue wonders if she will ever really find someone to be her partner.

She had a great marriage for years. It was happy and connected. She loved her life.

Why did it have to change? How will she find that same happiness now?

Will she always be alone?

These are the things she wonders.

You may wonder these things too.

I know what it’s like to wonder if your life can really be what you want it to be. I know what it’s like to have a drastic change in your life and feel extreme loss and sadness. I know the feeling of lonely. And I know that lonely is hard.

I also know that life has shown me time and again (for me and my clients) that life is happening exactly as it’s supposed to.

I know that the worst things ironically turn out to be the best things.

I know that if you decide you want happiness in your life – you can and will create it.

I’m excited for you and all that your future holds.

It’s going to be magical. Don’t you think?

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

disappointment

It took a while for me to start dating after my divorce.

I told myself I didn’t want to date.

I said that I had way too much going on and I was busy. I had my kids and my business. I was good at being independent.

The truth is that I was afraid to open myself up to disappointment.

I was afraid to admit that I wanted a connected relationship.

I was worried that I couldn’t handle losing another relationship and feel so much sadness and loss.

I decided to give it a try anyway.

How about you?

Are you willing to open up and give it a try?
What do you tell yourself is possible for your future?
What if something great is in store?

Think about it.

Stuck

This week I spoke with Janet about how stuck she feels in her life. It seems that her life is at the mercy of her ex-husband, and the courts, and everything outside of her.

Honestly, she feels a little hopeless.

As I listened to Janet it was so clear to me that she’s feeling totally powerless to her circumstances. It seems to her that the only way she can be okay is if things go a certain way. And for things to go a certain way, she has to control what everyone else does.

No wonder she’s feeling so hopeless. Can you relate?

Whatever is happening that’s outside of your control, doesn’t get to determine how your life turns out. It doesn’t determine how you feel and it certainly doesn’t determine what’s possible for you.

YOU CREATE YOUR LIFE. I promise you that.

What if that’s really true? What if you determine your life no matter what? What’s possible then?

Think about it.

Have an amazing weekend – one thought at a time!

1 year ago

This picture was taken a year ago. I took my kids to Florida on spring break because I was determined to give them amazing experiences, single mom or not.

I refused to believe I couldn’t afford it.
I refused to believe it would be too hard.
I refused to limit what was possible.

So, we loaded up the minivan, took a couple of extra kids along, and packed the cooler with snacks.

I look back now, and I’m so glad I did.

It seems like a lifetime ago and I’m glad we seized the moment.

Things are so different now… like we are almost different people.

In this transition phase of life, things change so rapidly, and personal growth is on hyper speed.

We live in a new state now. My business is twice as big as it was then. I’ve got my ideal business partner. My kids are older, wiser, and stronger than they were then. I’m engaged to an amazing man who I absolutely adore. I’m in love with my life and ecstatic about my future.

How can you seize the day and do something amazing?

What if this phase of life is an opportunity that’s meant to be magical?

What would you do?

Think about it.

Have a beautiful weekend, you deserve it!​

money

Yesterday on the podcast I talked about money.

Money fears.

Money beliefs.

Self-beliefs… related to money.

I remember when I was going through my divorce and my master coach training at the same time. My own beliefs about money were revealed to me and I didn’t like what I found. In fact, I became determined to believe something different…

At the time I was terrified at what would happen in my financial life. I had met with an attorney and her news about Texas law seemed bleak. I felt afraid that I wouldn’t be able to support my kids. I worried that I would be reliving my mom’s life as a single mom who was overworked and could barely put food on the table. I grew up watching her worry and fear every single day about money.

Once a month she would sit at her desk in this little nook at the top of our narrow staircase. We lived in a tiny duplex and I would sit right next to her while she worked – just grateful that she was home with us for once. She would write a tithing check first and put it on the corner of the desk and then work on paying the rest of the bills. There was never enough to cover them and she would always say, “we’re in the hole again” which was never a surprise to us.

Fear. Worry. Watching my mom bear it all, was a lot to handle.

And here I was, wondering if I was about to be in the same predicament.

I came to my master coach training call and was getting coaching from my peers and mentor/teacher, Brooke Castillo. Brooke asked me, “Why can’t you make as much money as your husband does?”

My answer, made me sick to my stomach as soon as it came out of my mouth. “Because I’m a woman.”

Yes. I said it. And I knew I believed it.

How could I think that? I didn’t want to own that thought.

And I decided that I didn’t want to believe that was true.

I knew that plenty of other women made a lot of money, so it had to be possible. And I knew that I wanted to believe I was capable too.

I didn’t adopt this new belief overnight, but I became relentless in my pursuit of believing that I could believe this at some point. I kept pushing the limit of what I believed was possible. I knew that even though I didn’t believe entirely today, I would believe a little more than yesterday.

What do you believe about your ability to make money?

Are you happy with that belief?

If not, are you willing to decide to believe something different?

What you believe is what you will create. Believe something awesome, okay?

You’re amazing.

Have a beautiful weekend- you deserve it.