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Is there anyone out there?

My client Sue wonders if she will ever really find someone to be her partner.

She had a great marriage for years. It was happy and connected. She loved her life.

Why did it have to change? How will she find that same happiness now?

Will she always be alone?

These are the things she wonders.

You may wonder these things too.

I know what it’s like to wonder if your life can really be what you want it to be. I know what it’s like to have a drastic change in your life and feel extreme loss and sadness. I know the feeling of lonely. And I know that lonely is hard.

I also know that life has shown me time and again (for me and my clients) that life is happening exactly as it’s supposed to.

I know that the worst things ironically turn out to be the best things.

I know that if you decide you want happiness in your life – you can and will create it.

I’m excited for you and all that your future holds.

It’s going to be magical. Don’t you think?

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

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Butter + Chex

My mom worked a lot when I was a kid – doing whatever it took to make ends meet.

I didn’t get to spend nearly as much time with her as I wanted.

But the time we spent I always loved.

I remember one night she came home and said if we got ready for bed quickly she was going to make a treat. My brother and I were so excited.

She put Corn Chex in a bowl and poured melted butter on it, then topped it with salt.

Like popcorn, but not.

I think it took her 2 minutes to make the whole thing – but it was so fun.

A treat on a weeknight. Eating it with my mom. I bet she thought nothing of it, but over 3 decades later and I still remember. The excitement, the connection. Feeling loved and important.

A few days ago my daughter put her cupcake apron on and we made the Chex treat. She thought it was the best thing in the world. Especially since we wore our aprons and made it together.

The way my daughter talks about it you would think it was a great bake-off.

All it took was a box of Chex, butter, salt, and 5 minutes of my time.

Those little moments to connect speak volumes. Sometimes we think we need to do something big or extravagant. Or we compare what we are doing with others. We don’t need to do any of that.

Create a moment, and enjoy it to the fullest.

Have a beautiful weekend- you deserve it.

German

My son is in Germany right now on an orchestra trip.

He keeps sending me messages in German.

He’s sending me pictures of food and his smiling face.

It feels like he’s growing and going his own way and I can’t believe it.

I started to go down the road of – have I taught him everything I should?

Did I let the years slip away while I was distracted with life?

Should I have been more patient?

And then I remembered… I don’t want to go down that road in my brain.

I’ve taught him a lot of things. I’ve been present a lot of the time. I’ve loved him and had days where I was totally patient. Those are the things I’m going to focus on.

What about you? What parenting moments do you focus on? What you focus on grows. Focus on the amazing – it’s so much more fun.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

How To Be Happy

how to be happy

One of the great questions of life is how to be happy.

Some people believe that they need someone else to make them happy.

Other people will tell you – “just choose to be happy!”

Neither one of these really sit very well with me.  There is however a simple truth about how to be happy that I want to share.

One of the most important things I teach my clients is how to create happiness.

When we expect someone else to “make us happy.”  We are always in a dependent position.  Someone else needs to behave a certain way or do certain things in order for us to be happy.  We are delegating our emotional well-being to someone else.  Our spouse, our kids, our co-worker, or whoever else we have chosen to give that power to.  I don’t know about you, but I want to be the one to decide if I can feel happiness or not.

“Choosing to be happy” is all well and good, after all – who wouldn’t choose that feeling?  But how do we actually do that?

I believe it’s more about creating than choosing. 

The way we think about life is how we will experience it.  What goes on in your mind?  What thought patterns do you currently have?  How much joy do you create internally?

This is kind of a *big* topic for a quick weekly tip, but please take away this…

You are the one who gets to create your happiness.  No one else can do it for you.  You no longer need to depend on anyone around you for it.  You decide how to be happy.

So, how will you create it?

Have a great day, one thought at a time.

-Molly

P.S.  Want to have a “create my happy” mini session?  Click here and we can schedule.