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German

My son is in Germany right now on an orchestra trip.

He keeps sending me messages in German.

He’s sending me pictures of food and his smiling face.

It feels like he’s growing and going his own way and I can’t believe it.

I started to go down the road of – have I taught him everything I should?

Did I let the years slip away while I was distracted with life?

Should I have been more patient?

And then I remembered… I don’t want to go down that road in my brain.

I’ve taught him a lot of things. I’ve been present a lot of the time. I’ve loved him and had days where I was totally patient. Those are the things I’m going to focus on.

What about you? What parenting moments do you focus on? What you focus on grows. Focus on the amazing – it’s so much more fun.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

How To Be Happy

how to be happy

One of the great questions of life is how to be happy.

Some people believe that they need someone else to make them happy.

Other people will tell you – “just choose to be happy!”

Neither one of these really sit very well with me.  There is however a simple truth about how to be happy that I want to share.

One of the most important things I teach my clients is how to create happiness.

When we expect someone else to “make us happy.”  We are always in a dependent position.  Someone else needs to behave a certain way or do certain things in order for us to be happy.  We are delegating our emotional well-being to someone else.  Our spouse, our kids, our co-worker, or whoever else we have chosen to give that power to.  I don’t know about you, but I want to be the one to decide if I can feel happiness or not.

“Choosing to be happy” is all well and good, after all – who wouldn’t choose that feeling?  But how do we actually do that?

I believe it’s more about creating than choosing. 

The way we think about life is how we will experience it.  What goes on in your mind?  What thought patterns do you currently have?  How much joy do you create internally?

This is kind of a *big* topic for a quick weekly tip, but please take away this…

You are the one who gets to create your happiness.  No one else can do it for you.  You no longer need to depend on anyone around you for it.  You decide how to be happy.

So, how will you create it?

Have a great day, one thought at a time.

-Molly

P.S.  Want to have a “create my happy” mini session?  Click here and we can schedule.