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disappointment

It took a while for me to start dating after my divorce.

I told myself I didn’t want to date.

I said that I had way too much going on and I was busy. I had my kids and my business. I was good at being independent.

The truth is that I was afraid to open myself up to disappointment.

I was afraid to admit that I wanted a connected relationship.

I was worried that I couldn’t handle losing another relationship and feel so much sadness and loss.

I decided to give it a try anyway.

How about you?

Are you willing to open up and give it a try?
What do you tell yourself is possible for your future?
What if something great is in store?

Think about it.

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unexpected family

Last weekend my daughter was baptized, and it was honestly like a dream come true.

For her, and for me.

The pictures didn’t look the way I expected they would 8 years ago.

The dream I had then, was not the dream that came true this weekend.

Except in all the ways it was exactly the same dream.

I didn’t know then that I would be a single mom.

I didn’t expect that she would have a bonus mom and a half-sibling on the way.

I didn’t realize that my in-laws, who I adore, would be “ex” in-laws.

And I certainly never would have believed that I would feel so grateful about all of it.

The dream looked so different, but the love, connection, and happiness that I really wanted – was all there.

I feel so blessed that even though things don’t always go as planned, God grants us greater blessings than we can ever imagine.

I’m so grateful that my kids get to have even more people in their life that love them.

What a gift.

Even when your hopes and dreams seem to be out of reach, the experience you want can always happen. Create the relationships you want.

Keep focused on what’s most important. Allow God to work miracles.

Have an amazing day, one thought at a time!

– Molly

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my secret brain drama

My daughter is getting baptized this Saturday and I’ve been feeling so nervous.

Her dad and his wife are coming and so are my ex-in-laws. I love all of them, but all week I’ve been getting in their business.

Do you know what I mean by that?

When you’re getting in someone’s business, you’re guessing what they are thinking and feeling.

You’re getting into their head and their emotions… as if you belong there.

And that’s what I was doing.

I want to invite them and love them like always, but my brain keeps thinking,

“They don’t want to be around you.”
“They are upset with you.”
“She doesn’t like you.”
“He is mad at me.”

NONE. Of. My business.

Most likely they aren’t thinking about me at all. And maybe they are thinking some good things. Perhaps they are wondering what I’m thinking of them.

I don’t really know. But I know it’s none of my business.

My business is to keep loving them.
My business is to invite them to come over, because that’s what I want to do.
My business is to decide how I want to think and feel, no matter what.

I think it’s going to be a great weekend.
I think my daughter is lucky to have so many amazing people in her life.
I think I’m going to appreciate every minute, no matter what.

Have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it.

-Molly Claire

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royal treatment

Wednesday in my Single Mom group we talked about setting the bar high when it comes to dating. We talked about deciding what you want and not settling for anything less.

We talked about committing to only allowing people into your life who treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

And do you know where that begins? With YOU.

What do you say to yourself when you wake up in the morning?
What do you say to yourself when you think you’ve made a mistake?
When you’re stuck or frustrated, how much compassion do you offer yourself?

The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have in your life.

Make it a good one.

Be kind to you. Offer yourself compassion just because you’re human.
Give yourself the royal treatment by believing in yourself.

Have an amazing weekend – you deserve it <3
xo

-Molly Claire

dating after divorce

*Friday Love Note* and dating after divorce.

Last week on Facebook, I saw this hysterical quote on dating:

Dating after 40 is easy.
It’s like riding a bike.
But the bike is on fire.
And the ground is on fire.
Everything is on fire.
Because you’re in hell.

It made me laugh out loud, and yet I totally disagree.

I have a very different view on dating and because of that, I experience it in a totally different way.

Dating is so much better when you know yourself, who you are, and what you want.

It’s so fun to realize that you have a choice in who you spend your time with.

It’s exciting to know that you get to make up new rules in your life, now that “the plan” didn’t work out.

It’s full of ups and downs, but it’s the ultimate next step in self-discovery and creating a fresh start.

If you relate to the Facebook post, try a few of these on for size…

What if dating is a great way to figure out what I want?

What if dating can be easy?
What if dating can be fun?
What if doing scary things is how I get to enjoy the best things in life?

Think about it.

Have a great weekend – you deserve it!

-Molly Claire