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Deep Regret

Do you ever feel deep regret about your past marriage?

Regret about what you did or didn’t do?

Regret about not being able to make it work?

Regret about a million and one things and the fear that it’s impacted your kids?

I totally get it.

Last week I had some of that deep regret come to the surface again. I’ve been worried about my kids for so many reasons. And I fear that their problems are all my fault.

If only I would have. If only I could have. If only I could go back in time 10 years, 15 years or 20 years and do that one thing different. It felt so heavy.

I know you feel this way too sometimes.

I’m still working to reconcile some of my regret and I’m allowing myself plenty of space to do it.

In the meantime, I’m reminding myself of a few things.

In every moment along the way, most of us do the best we can with where we are.

Sometimes our best, doesn’t look that great – and that’s okay.

My kid’s ability to achieve success and happiness in life is dependent on them – not me.

Our human weaknesses are supposed to be there, they are not a mistake.

I hope you can see the best in yourself in the past, and the best in yourself today.

I hope you can see the best in your future too.

Have a beautiful weekend- you deserve it!

Understanding

Do you ever wish someone understood how you were feeling?

I know that feeling…

Lately I’ve been feeling like an anomaly.

Like my experience and challenges and hurts are so different from everyone else. I find myself trying to find someone who understands.

I know you’ve felt that way too.

Maybe for you your marriage was hard, and you were relieved to have it end.

Maybe your marriage was amazing, and you felt heartbroken and betrayed when it was over.

Maybe you feel like a failure.

Maybe you feel judged.

Maybe you feel hopeless or alone.

Maybe you feel a lot of things and you seem to be so different from everyone else.

Can you relate?

This is always the time that I remind myself of one of my core beliefs – God understands. At the deepest level, he knows exactly what I’m feeling. He cares that I feel that way.

God knows you.

He understands how you feel.

Even if no one else does – he gets it.

Have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it.

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unexpected family

Last weekend my daughter was baptized, and it was honestly like a dream come true.

For her, and for me.

The pictures didn’t look the way I expected they would 8 years ago.

The dream I had then, was not the dream that came true this weekend.

Except in all the ways it was exactly the same dream.

I didn’t know then that I would be a single mom.

I didn’t expect that she would have a bonus mom and a half-sibling on the way.

I didn’t realize that my in-laws, who I adore, would be “ex” in-laws.

And I certainly never would have believed that I would feel so grateful about all of it.

The dream looked so different, but the love, connection, and happiness that I really wanted – was all there.

I feel so blessed that even though things don’t always go as planned, God grants us greater blessings than we can ever imagine.

I’m so grateful that my kids get to have even more people in their life that love them.

What a gift.

Even when your hopes and dreams seem to be out of reach, the experience you want can always happen. Create the relationships you want.

Keep focused on what’s most important. Allow God to work miracles.

Have an amazing day, one thought at a time!

– Molly

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my secret brain drama

My daughter is getting baptized this Saturday and I’ve been feeling so nervous.

Her dad and his wife are coming and so are my ex-in-laws. I love all of them, but all week I’ve been getting in their business.

Do you know what I mean by that?

When you’re getting in someone’s business, you’re guessing what they are thinking and feeling.

You’re getting into their head and their emotions… as if you belong there.

And that’s what I was doing.

I want to invite them and love them like always, but my brain keeps thinking,

“They don’t want to be around you.”
“They are upset with you.”
“She doesn’t like you.”
“He is mad at me.”

NONE. Of. My business.

Most likely they aren’t thinking about me at all. And maybe they are thinking some good things. Perhaps they are wondering what I’m thinking of them.

I don’t really know. But I know it’s none of my business.

My business is to keep loving them.
My business is to invite them to come over, because that’s what I want to do.
My business is to decide how I want to think and feel, no matter what.

I think it’s going to be a great weekend.
I think my daughter is lucky to have so many amazing people in her life.
I think I’m going to appreciate every minute, no matter what.

Have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it.

-Molly Claire

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royal treatment

Wednesday in my Single Mom group we talked about setting the bar high when it comes to dating. We talked about deciding what you want and not settling for anything less.

We talked about committing to only allowing people into your life who treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

And do you know where that begins? With YOU.

What do you say to yourself when you wake up in the morning?
What do you say to yourself when you think you’ve made a mistake?
When you’re stuck or frustrated, how much compassion do you offer yourself?

The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have in your life.

Make it a good one.

Be kind to you. Offer yourself compassion just because you’re human.
Give yourself the royal treatment by believing in yourself.

Have an amazing weekend – you deserve it <3
xo

-Molly Claire