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Yesterday on the podcast I talked about money.

Money fears.

Money beliefs.

Self-beliefs… related to money.

I remember when I was going through my divorce and my master coach training at the same time. My own beliefs about money were revealed to me and I didn’t like what I found. In fact, I became determined to believe something different…

At the time I was terrified at what would happen in my financial life. I had met with an attorney and her news about Texas law seemed bleak. I felt afraid that I wouldn’t be able to support my kids. I worried that I would be reliving my mom’s life as a single mom who was overworked and could barely put food on the table. I grew up watching her worry and fear every single day about money.

Once a month she would sit at her desk in this little nook at the top of our narrow staircase. We lived in a tiny duplex and I would sit right next to her while she worked – just grateful that she was home with us for once. She would write a tithing check first and put it on the corner of the desk and then work on paying the rest of the bills. There was never enough to cover them and she would always say, “we’re in the hole again” which was never a surprise to us.

Fear. Worry. Watching my mom bear it all, was a lot to handle.

And here I was, wondering if I was about to be in the same predicament.

I came to my master coach training call and was getting coaching from my peers and mentor/teacher, Brooke Castillo. Brooke asked me, “Why can’t you make as much money as your husband does?”

My answer, made me sick to my stomach as soon as it came out of my mouth. “Because I’m a woman.”

Yes. I said it. And I knew I believed it.

How could I think that? I didn’t want to own that thought.

And I decided that I didn’t want to believe that was true.

I knew that plenty of other women made a lot of money, so it had to be possible. And I knew that I wanted to believe I was capable too.

I didn’t adopt this new belief overnight, but I became relentless in my pursuit of believing that I could believe this at some point. I kept pushing the limit of what I believed was possible. I knew that even though I didn’t believe entirely today, I would believe a little more than yesterday.

What do you believe about your ability to make money?

Are you happy with that belief?

If not, are you willing to decide to believe something different?

What you believe is what you will create. Believe something awesome, okay?

You’re amazing.

Have a beautiful weekend- you deserve it.

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35 years ago

This mug pictured here was a gift from my mom on Valentine’s day when I was 5. I woke up to this mug full of candy, but my mom was already gone… at work before the sun was up.

I’m pretty sure she worried she wasn’t doing enough as a mom. As a single mom she was stretched thin, worn out, and worried about her kids. Just like you and me – I’m guessing she worried about failing as a mom.

Yesterday, 35 years later, I was drinking from it – still feeling of her love and thoughtfulness. Grateful for the person she was, not just what she did. Grateful for her unconditional love, even though sometimes she was short on patience or just didn’t have extra time to spend with me.

Her presence in my life has been an unbelievable foundation for me, and continues to be even now that she has been gone for almost 2 decades.

I know you wonder sometimes if you’re doing enough. You worry how your kids will turn out. You’re often riddled with worry and guilt.

And today I want to suggest that you stop.
For just a minute.
Stop and breathe.

Love your kids.
Be kind to yourself so they will know how to be kind to themselves too.
Give yourself a break.
Take a minute to enjoy.
Just be in their life. That’s all they need.

Have an amazing weekend, you deserve it!

can’t sleep

I’m so excited about my life that I can’t sleep.

I’m not saying that because my life is better than yours.

And it’s not because my life is perfect either.

I’m telling you that because my life was not so different a couple of weeks ago, and yet I’m feeling so different.

And I want to share with you the secret.

You may remember that a couple of weeks ago I wrote to you about coming back to life. I’d been ignoring some of my feelings and what I wanted, for the sake of what I thought I was supposed to do. And since I decided to listen to my feelings (rather than ignore and keep moving forward with a smile), I’ve got more energy than I’ve had in a long time. I’m feeling in total alignment with my desires, and therefore my purpose in life.

And this is pure magic.

Are you feeling a sneaky weight on your shoulders that’s weighing you down?

What feelings are you ignoring?

What in your life are you doing because you’re “supposed to,” even though it’s not what you want? What change would you make today to be more in alignment with yourself and what you want?

And if you did that – how would you feel?

Think about it.

Have a great day – one thought at a time!

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Holiday Emotions

This week on the podcast I talked about the strong emotions we feel over the holidays.

Sadness, anxiety, jealousy, worry… just to name a few.

My client Janet is avoiding holiday parties because it’s her first Christmas after divorce. It seems too painful to go, when she anticipates such strong emotions are sure to come up.

The only thing Janet is avoiding – is an emotion.

Think about that.

An emotion. A feeling in her body. A strong feeling… that is really scary to her.

But in truth – she can handle any emotion that comes her way.

We go to great lengths to avoid feelings because we think we can’t handle them. But we always can.

What emotion are you avoiding? What if you can allow that feeling? What if you can cry sometimes without shoving it down? What if you no longer have to fear the way you’ll feel?

What would you do then?…

Think about it.

Click to learn more about How to Handle your Emotions like a Boss on the podcast.

Have a beautiful weekend and an amazing Christmas– you deserve it!

-Molly Claire

yes

This week I opened complimentary access for single moms to my coaching.
Did you get the coupon code?

It’s for the first 100 women to join and I don’t want you to miss it.
It’s a month of free coaching and access to my 7 week e-course.

You can get info about the program HERE and enter coupon code, “yes2you” to gain access.

One of the best parts of the group is the weekly coaching call and I want to tell you about yesterday…

Yesterday was our coaching call online and it was phenomenal.

Why?

We had 2 new women who were willing to speak up. 

They didn’t just join the group, but they spoke up to get help.  They said YES to help.
They were brave and decided that they were ready to feel better and create something better.

And so, they said YES to themselves.
They said YES to their future.
They said YES to showing up in a big way.

Getting help can be hard. Showing up can be hard. Signing up for something new and scary… can be hard.

Will you say YES anyway?

I think it’s worth it.

Join me next week and say YES to you.

Have an amazing weekend – you deserve it.
xo

-Molly Claire