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teen trouble

I love my teenagers. And all the teenagers that come and go at my house.

A lot of people don’t feel that way about teens, I know.

It’s hard when they do all the teenager things we don’t think they should be doing.

Really hard.

But the only thing that gets in the way of love (and loving teenagers) is fear.
Fear is always what keeps us from love.

Do you feel afraid that your teen is going to make huge mistakes?
Do you worry that you haven’t done enough to protect them?
Or that you’re not doing enough now?

This fear and worry drives us to tighten the reigns too tight and listen to every fearful thought our brain is offering us.

The truth is, they will make mistakes.

You can’t really protect them from life.

And maybe you can always do more… but perhaps you’re not supposed to.

Let’s love our kids when they lie and when they break the rules and when they get in big trouble.

Let’s love ourselves by offering ourselves grace (after all we are trying to figure this out).

Walk that line between rules and freedom and do it all with love. Love is more powerful than any of us realize.

Have an amazing Friday – you deserve it.

fragile

My client was feeling really fragile yesterday.

She didn’t like that she felt that way.

She was thinking her life was a bit of a mess.

And she didn’t like that either.

Feeling fragile or having your life seem like “a mess,” isn’t a problem.

It’s only a problem when we make it mean that we aren’t strong or capable of handling our life.

Personally, I feel fragile pretty often.

And my life… often looks really messy.

I have to remind myself that it’s okay for me to be human and to feel and be exactly the way I am.

What about you? Can you relate to feeling this way?

If so, I wonder if you can allow yourself to be human today and not make it mean anything about how strong you are.

I wonder if you can totally drop the ball on a lot of things, and still have a handle on a lot of things that are important.

I wonder if today you can see the good and accept the “messy” parts of your life as perfect the way they are.

Think about it.

Have a beautiful weekend- you deserve it!

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that’s inspiring

Yesterday was amazing.

The women in The Coaching Collective were connecting with each other about their dream come true life and business.

They shared their personal values with each other. They shared the things they really want in their life and what matters most to them.

They talked about how they would make those things a reality.

How awesome is that? Connecting with others about making your dreams come to fruition?!

So inspiring.

How often do you think about what you want in life?
How often do you actually believe it will happen?
What steps do you take toward realizing it?

Thinking about it and believing it are the first (and most important steps).

Are you a coach who wants to join The Coaching Collective?
The waitlist is ready for you.

For today – think about what you want in your life.

Ask yourself, what if that’s really possible?

It’s fun to dream. I highly recommend it.

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

money

Yesterday on the podcast I talked about money.

Money fears.

Money beliefs.

Self-beliefs… related to money.

I remember when I was going through my divorce and my master coach training at the same time. My own beliefs about money were revealed to me and I didn’t like what I found. In fact, I became determined to believe something different…

At the time I was terrified at what would happen in my financial life. I had met with an attorney and her news about Texas law seemed bleak. I felt afraid that I wouldn’t be able to support my kids. I worried that I would be reliving my mom’s life as a single mom who was overworked and could barely put food on the table. I grew up watching her worry and fear every single day about money.

Once a month she would sit at her desk in this little nook at the top of our narrow staircase. We lived in a tiny duplex and I would sit right next to her while she worked – just grateful that she was home with us for once. She would write a tithing check first and put it on the corner of the desk and then work on paying the rest of the bills. There was never enough to cover them and she would always say, “we’re in the hole again” which was never a surprise to us.

Fear. Worry. Watching my mom bear it all, was a lot to handle.

And here I was, wondering if I was about to be in the same predicament.

I came to my master coach training call and was getting coaching from my peers and mentor/teacher, Brooke Castillo. Brooke asked me, “Why can’t you make as much money as your husband does?”

My answer, made me sick to my stomach as soon as it came out of my mouth. “Because I’m a woman.”

Yes. I said it. And I knew I believed it.

How could I think that? I didn’t want to own that thought.

And I decided that I didn’t want to believe that was true.

I knew that plenty of other women made a lot of money, so it had to be possible. And I knew that I wanted to believe I was capable too.

I didn’t adopt this new belief overnight, but I became relentless in my pursuit of believing that I could believe this at some point. I kept pushing the limit of what I believed was possible. I knew that even though I didn’t believe entirely today, I would believe a little more than yesterday.

What do you believe about your ability to make money?

Are you happy with that belief?

If not, are you willing to decide to believe something different?

What you believe is what you will create. Believe something awesome, okay?

You’re amazing.

Have a beautiful weekend- you deserve it.

can’t sleep

I’m so excited about my life that I can’t sleep.

I’m not saying that because my life is better than yours.

And it’s not because my life is perfect either.

I’m telling you that because my life was not so different a couple of weeks ago, and yet I’m feeling so different.

And I want to share with you the secret.

You may remember that a couple of weeks ago I wrote to you about coming back to life. I’d been ignoring some of my feelings and what I wanted, for the sake of what I thought I was supposed to do. And since I decided to listen to my feelings (rather than ignore and keep moving forward with a smile), I’ve got more energy than I’ve had in a long time. I’m feeling in total alignment with my desires, and therefore my purpose in life.

And this is pure magic.

Are you feeling a sneaky weight on your shoulders that’s weighing you down?

What feelings are you ignoring?

What in your life are you doing because you’re “supposed to,” even though it’s not what you want? What change would you make today to be more in alignment with yourself and what you want?

And if you did that – how would you feel?

Think about it.

Have a great day – one thought at a time!