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1 year ago

This picture was taken a year ago. I took my kids to Florida on spring break because I was determined to give them amazing experiences, single mom or not.

I refused to believe I couldn’t afford it.
I refused to believe it would be too hard.
I refused to limit what was possible.

So, we loaded up the minivan, took a couple of extra kids along, and packed the cooler with snacks.

I look back now, and I’m so glad I did.

It seems like a lifetime ago and I’m glad we seized the moment.

Things are so different now… like we are almost different people.

In this transition phase of life, things change so rapidly, and personal growth is on hyper speed.

We live in a new state now. My business is twice as big as it was then. I’ve got my ideal business partner. My kids are older, wiser, and stronger than they were then. I’m engaged to an amazing man who I absolutely adore. I’m in love with my life and ecstatic about my future.

How can you seize the day and do something amazing?

What if this phase of life is an opportunity that’s meant to be magical?

What would you do?

Think about it.

Have a beautiful weekend, you deserve it!​

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you’re going to be okay

*Think it Thursday* and you’re going to be okay –

Today’s one of those days that I’m getting personal.

I’m speaking to those of you who feel you’re in a dark place, stuck, and wondering how you will make it through whatever challenge you are facing.

You may be feeling fear and worry that things won’t get better in your life.

I know just how you feel.

If you’ve been following me for a while, you know that I’ve been redesigning my life and creating a new normal over the last few years as I’m navigating life as a single mom. I’ve been managing the ups and downs of chronic fatigue and trying to keep the faith that it will get better.

I’ve been forging ahead and yet – I’m sort of breathing a sigh of relief lately.  I feel that sense of, wow I made it through – and I’m still standing.  I’m still moving forward.

I remember feeling so much fear and experiencing deep sadness.
I remember so much uncertainty and wishing it would all just go away.

I’ve been putting one foot in front of the other and it wasn’t until recently that I had an appreciation for how much I’ve come through and what I’ve overcome.  Not because of me, but because of the possibilities that life allows us.

Within you is the ability to overcome every challenge in front of you.  Even when it’s not easy.

And believe me – it never feels easy. 

If you’re reading this and feeling that you can’t keep going– I understand.
If you’re wondering if you’ll make it through – I understand.
If you’re thinking the end of this challenge should be sooner rather than later – I totally understand.

And yet I promise you – you can handle this challenge in front of you.  

You are capable, and you are strong.  

You were designed to overcome this challenge.

Your faith, your strength, and your courage will come together as a force of nature.  You’ll do it.  I promise.

Sending you extra love today.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

Xoxo

– Molly Claire

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blame no more

*Friday Love Note* and blame no more –

Blame is not useful.

In my Survive and Thrive group for single moms, blame comes up a lot.

It’s his fault.

I’m afraid it’s my fault.

It’s 60/40 fault.

We feel so many negative emotions and we want to find a place to direct them.  Find the cause and throw those negative emotions at the cause.

This is not useful for anyone.

If he is to blame, then you feel anger and resentment and try to throw those negative emotions at him.

If you are to blame, then you will sit in self-hatred, hopelessness, and misery.

Do you notice that neither one of these situations benefits anyone?

Neither one helps you to progress.

Neither one speaks to love.

Neither one moves you toward a better future.

What if no one is to blame?

What if things just happened?  What if everyone made mistakes and everyone has faults.

What if regardless of what happened, this is just where you are?

Really think about how this would feel.

What if you can let go of the need to point the finger, and instead direct your brain to the future and what’s next?

It’s the difference between being stuck in the past, and looking forward to the future with solutions, hope, and progress.

Let’s move forward, shall we?

Have an amazing weekend – you deserve it <3

Xo

– Molly Claire

Embracing discomfort with life changes

life changes

Letting go of something that’s been a part of our lives for a long time is hard.  But going through major life changes requires it.

We resist letting go of what’s been our “normal.”

We fear the unknown that lies ahead.

Even when it’s for the best and great things are yet to come, change is hard.

 

I have a few clients going through major (and minor) life changes right now who are experiencing this phenomenon.

Sarah is beginning the process of divorce.  She is ready, and yet she’s not.  She’s confident, and terrified at the same time.

 

Jennifer is going through a major change at work.  After more than 10 years invested in her company, it’s all going to be new and different.  New systems, new rules, new philosophies. She feels a sense of loss.

 

Ellen is letting go of worry.  She has worried her whole life and the constant discomfort she feels is familiar and safe.  As we are working to create new patterns for her that include calmness and mental presence, she finds herself resisting.

 

No matter what life change is happening for you, you may find yourself resisting too.

Just because a change is positive, doesn’t mean it is devoid of resistance and fear.

This very resistance and fear is usually what keeps us from making positive changes in our lives.

For those of you going through a major change – I’m sending you peaceful thoughts of strength and perspective.  The fear, sadness, and resistance you are experiencing is normal.  Allow it to be there as you move forward and embrace the good.

The more we can make peace with those uncomfortable feelings that accompany change, the more we open our lives up to the constant improvement and change that we crave.

 

So for today – embrace a little discomfort.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

with love,

Molly