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grace and space

My client Susan felt like an emotional mess this week.

She’s feeling totally overwhelmed with her own emotions and she is certain that something is wrong with her.

She wants to pull it together.

She wants to handle life the way a “together” person would handle it.

Can you relate?

I certainly can.

Maybe you want to have it together, pull it together, and feel together.

My advice…

The best way to feel together is to be together with you.

When you’re sad or upset – remind yourself that it will be okay and it won’t last forever.

When you’re feeling overwhelmed, be your own best friend and give yourself a little love and encouragement.

When you’re frustrated with how you’re handling life – allow yourself a little grace and space.

Grace to be human.
Space to be human.

Take a break. Take a breath. Tomorrow is a new day.

Have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it!

Is there anyone out there?

My client Sue wonders if she will ever really find someone to be her partner.

She had a great marriage for years. It was happy and connected. She loved her life.

Why did it have to change? How will she find that same happiness now?

Will she always be alone?

These are the things she wonders.

You may wonder these things too.

I know what it’s like to wonder if your life can really be what you want it to be. I know what it’s like to have a drastic change in your life and feel extreme loss and sadness. I know the feeling of lonely. And I know that lonely is hard.

I also know that life has shown me time and again (for me and my clients) that life is happening exactly as it’s supposed to.

I know that the worst things ironically turn out to be the best things.

I know that if you decide you want happiness in your life – you can and will create it.

I’m excited for you and all that your future holds.

It’s going to be magical. Don’t you think?

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

What if you couldn’t?

Christina is a single mom who can’t help but think she failed in her marriage.

Why else would her husband cheat if there wasn’t something wrong with her?

She knows what she would tell someone else, but when it comes to her – she blames herself.

I challenged Christina and I’m going to challenge you too.

“Christina – what if you weren’t allowed to think there was something wrong with you? What if it just wasn’t an option at all. What then?”

When Christina takes away that option – so many others appear. She is able to invite in other ideas that are so much truer and give her a better understanding.

What’s your thought that you keep going back to? What’s the belief that keeps you stuck, frustrated or feeling sad? What if you weren’t allowed to think it. What if it were deleted, unavailable – totally out of reach.

What might you think instead?

Give it a try.

Have an amazing weekend – you deserve it!

1 year ago

This picture was taken a year ago. I took my kids to Florida on spring break because I was determined to give them amazing experiences, single mom or not.

I refused to believe I couldn’t afford it.
I refused to believe it would be too hard.
I refused to limit what was possible.

So, we loaded up the minivan, took a couple of extra kids along, and packed the cooler with snacks.

I look back now, and I’m so glad I did.

It seems like a lifetime ago and I’m glad we seized the moment.

Things are so different now… like we are almost different people.

In this transition phase of life, things change so rapidly, and personal growth is on hyper speed.

We live in a new state now. My business is twice as big as it was then. I’ve got my ideal business partner. My kids are older, wiser, and stronger than they were then. I’m engaged to an amazing man who I absolutely adore. I’m in love with my life and ecstatic about my future.

How can you seize the day and do something amazing?

What if this phase of life is an opportunity that’s meant to be magical?

What would you do?

Think about it.

Have a beautiful weekend, you deserve it!​

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35 years ago

This mug pictured here was a gift from my mom on Valentine’s day when I was 5. I woke up to this mug full of candy, but my mom was already gone… at work before the sun was up.

I’m pretty sure she worried she wasn’t doing enough as a mom. As a single mom she was stretched thin, worn out, and worried about her kids. Just like you and me – I’m guessing she worried about failing as a mom.

Yesterday, 35 years later, I was drinking from it – still feeling of her love and thoughtfulness. Grateful for the person she was, not just what she did. Grateful for her unconditional love, even though sometimes she was short on patience or just didn’t have extra time to spend with me.

Her presence in my life has been an unbelievable foundation for me, and continues to be even now that she has been gone for almost 2 decades.

I know you wonder sometimes if you’re doing enough. You worry how your kids will turn out. You’re often riddled with worry and guilt.

And today I want to suggest that you stop.
For just a minute.
Stop and breathe.

Love your kids.
Be kind to yourself so they will know how to be kind to themselves too.
Give yourself a break.
Take a minute to enjoy.
Just be in their life. That’s all they need.

Have an amazing weekend, you deserve it!