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teen trouble

I love my teenagers. And all the teenagers that come and go at my house.

A lot of people don’t feel that way about teens, I know.

It’s hard when they do all the teenager things we don’t think they should be doing.

Really hard.

But the only thing that gets in the way of love (and loving teenagers) is fear.
Fear is always what keeps us from love.

Do you feel afraid that your teen is going to make huge mistakes?
Do you worry that you haven’t done enough to protect them?
Or that you’re not doing enough now?

This fear and worry drives us to tighten the reigns too tight and listen to every fearful thought our brain is offering us.

The truth is, they will make mistakes.

You can’t really protect them from life.

And maybe you can always do more… but perhaps you’re not supposed to.

Let’s love our kids when they lie and when they break the rules and when they get in big trouble.

Let’s love ourselves by offering ourselves grace (after all we are trying to figure this out).

Walk that line between rules and freedom and do it all with love. Love is more powerful than any of us realize.

Have an amazing Friday – you deserve it.

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it’s hard

This week my son told me, “life really sucks right now.”

And sometimes, it does.

In our new neighborhood he has no friends, school seems to be the worst, and he really misses his dad too. He’s told me that he doesn’t think he has anything to look forward to.

And I know just how he feels.

Sometimes, life feels kind of awful. Sometimes we are in a waiting phase, in limbo, experiencing really hard emotions.

And sometimes, you don’t really want to be cheered up either.

I know you feel this way too sometimes.

If you’re reading this and you’re feeling the same way he is, I just want you to know – that I understand. I’m sorry that it’s hard right now.

I know how hard emotions like sadness, grief, and devastation are.

I know you want them to go away, and you wonder if they ever will.

I’m here for you and I get it.

I hope you can be there for yourself too. I hope that when you’re sad, you give yourself a tissue and tell yourself it’s okay. I hope that no matter what you’re feeling, you don’t treat yourself like anything less than amazing. I hope you can have patience while you’re in this place. And maybe remind yourself that it won’t always be this way.

I promise that’s true.

Sending you love.

P.S. Last Chance to join the 5 Day Reclaim Your Life Challenge for Single Moms. Click here to join

-Molly

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Are you powerful? (p.s. read this blog all the way to the end)

I think you’re powerful.

And what I think, might actually matter.

Someone once told me in a low moment that I was, “powerful and vibrant.”

I didn’t think I was at the time, but I decided to believe him.

I decided to think that he saw something in me that I couldn’t see.

I wondered if it was true.

And if it was true – what might be possible?

I decided to believe it and I moved forward with determination. 

(I tell more about this story on the podcast here – it’s a good one)

With that belief, I built my business. I wrote a book. I helped my kids through the divorce process. I trained hundreds of life coaches over the space of a couple of years. I rebuilt my life one day, one emotional breakdown, and one triumph at a time.

Not because of what or who I was… but because of what I believed. 

What do you believe?…
What if you are powerful?
Vibrant? Capable? Brilliant? Determined?
What’s possible then?

Decide it’s true.

Allow that belief to move you forward to create exactly the life you want.  I know you can.

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Have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it!

-Molly

do it your way

This week on the podcast I interviewed my good friend Sherry, who talked about her ninja skills as a single mom of 5 kids.

She doesn’t think they’re ninja skills, but I can see so clearly that they are.

Her divorce was the last thing she wanted.
5 kids, finances, life… all on her shoulders.

And the bravest thing she did… was doing things her way, rather than thinking that someone else knew what was best for her family.

More often than not, that meant laughing with her kids daily, rather than having family home evening at 5:30pm each Monday night.

Sometimes it meant rejuvenating from a long work week on Sunday with a quiet day at home, rather than dragging her crew to church.

It meant releasing the guilt and taking care of herself and her needs, so she could be the woman and mom she really wanted to be.

Her ninja skills are too many to count.

A few of my favorites are…

Her ability to love her kids like crazy.

Her gift of connecting with them and meeting them where they are.

Her creativity in figuring out how to do life.

And the best… her commitment to staying true to herself and what’s best for her – no matter what anyone else thinks.

Sherry was my walking buddy, shoulder to cry on, and my mentor in dating after divorce.

I love her and I bet you will too.

Click here to listen.

Have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it!

-Molly Claire

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he was furious

My son was furious with me this week.

He wanted to do something and I said no.

I didn’t think it was in his best interest at all.

I say yes most of the time – whenever I can.

But this time, it was a no.

He threw a teenage tantrum. He said mean things to me. He was unreasonable and pushing every last limit in the way he was behaving.

And I decided it was okay. I held the line. I drew some personal boundaries for myself and let him freak out in the way he wanted to, as long as it didn’t cross into my space.

Sometimes your kids don’t like what you have to say, and maybe that’s okay.

They can think and feel a lot of negative things about you, and it doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong.

You can stay peaceful, even when they aren’t.

Give it a try.

Have a great day -one thought at a time!