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escape

Lately I’ve been wanting to escape being a mom.

Like literally thinking about fleeing the country and never looking back.

It seems like such a selfish and shameful thought. A thought I didn’t want to say out loud, but I did it anyway. And when I said it out loud I felt so much relief.

The only reason I feel this way – is because I care so much about them. And I want to do a good job. I create pressure. I don’t believe I’m measuring up. And… I want to flee the country.

Sometimes my clients feel this way too… and they feel guilty about it.

They think they shouldn’t want to escape. They think they should be a better mom.

They have a book of rules about what being a good mom and a good person looks like, and there is no room for being human or having thoughts that don’t seem “good” and “positive.”

I think the rule book is wrong.

Being an amazing mom includes having all kinds of thoughts and feelings.

Loving your kids means feeling negative emotions too.

And being the perfect mom for your kids, means being you with all of your humanness – the good, the bad and the ugly. It’s all part of the deal and it’s exactly as it should be.

Be amazing today. Have compassion when you’re feeling burned out. Trust that you’re doing better than you think. And please take an extra break for me, will you?

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

Holiday Jealousy

Christina worries that her kids have more fun with their dad and his new girlfriend over the holidays than they do with her.

It’s really hard for her.

It’s so hard for her that she begins to overextend herself and overspend her budget… to try to win them over.

When they are with their dad, she feels terrible.

She wishes she didn’t feel so jealous, resentful, and inadequate.

The reason she feels that way is that she is making the good relationship with their dad, mean something about their relationship with her.

She thinks if one relationship is amazing, the other one can’t be.

It’s as if there is a relationship budget – only so much happiness and connection to go around.

The truth is that the relationship they have with him, has nothing to do with the relationship they have with her.

They can love him, and they can love her. They can have fun with his girlfriend, and it means absolutely nothing about how her kids feel about her.

And the same is true for you…

If you want to hear more about this topic – CLICK HERE to sign up for my free webinar on Holiday Success for Single Moms. I address 3 main issues that single moms face over the holidays (and how to solve them). It’s totally worth carving out 30 minutes to join me. I’ll even answer your questions live.

Can’t wait to see you then!

Until then, have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it!

-Molly Claire

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he was furious

My son was furious with me this week.

He wanted to do something and I said no.

I didn’t think it was in his best interest at all.

I say yes most of the time – whenever I can.

But this time, it was a no.

He threw a teenage tantrum. He said mean things to me. He was unreasonable and pushing every last limit in the way he was behaving.

And I decided it was okay. I held the line. I drew some personal boundaries for myself and let him freak out in the way he wanted to, as long as it didn’t cross into my space.

Sometimes your kids don’t like what you have to say, and maybe that’s okay.

They can think and feel a lot of negative things about you, and it doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong.

You can stay peaceful, even when they aren’t.

Give it a try.

Have a great day -one thought at a time!

let’s talk

This week I spoke with Carrie on the phone.

She is recently divorced and ready to have a fresh start.

The problem is… she doesn’t know where to begin.

She defined her life as being a wife and a mom for so long. Her identity was one in the same with family life.

Since getting divorced she has begun to see herself as an individual, and it’s kind of fun.

At the same time, she feels a little lost at what happens next in her life.

It’s like all of the limits that were there, are now gone. She gets to make up new rules, come up with new ideas, and decide what she wants her life to look like.

If you want to join me, Carrie and other women creating a fresh start in 2019 – CLICK HERE to talk with me.

And for today, just start to think – if the old rules no longer apply…

What do you want your life to look like?
Who do you want to be?
How do you want to feel about yourself?
What do you want to believe is possible?

Now’s the time. Start fresh. Create your life.

Have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it!

-Molly Claire

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Decide now

A lot of my clients get so worried about the holidays.

“It’s so busy.”
“There’s so much to do.”
“I get so overwhelmed.”

They worry that life will feel so out of control over those weeks.

But I say, decide now.

Decide now how you’ll experience December.

Think about how you really want to spend your time and do it.

Drop everyone else’s expectations and decide what’s most important to you.

Focus on relationships. Focus on your favorite moments.

Think about creating memories.

Take full responsibility for your experience and make it exactly what you want it to be.

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

– Molly Claire