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disappointment

It took a while for me to start dating after my divorce.

I told myself I didn’t want to date.

I said that I had way too much going on and I was busy. I had my kids and my business. I was good at being independent.

The truth is that I was afraid to open myself up to disappointment.

I was afraid to admit that I wanted a connected relationship.

I was worried that I couldn’t handle losing another relationship and feel so much sadness and loss.

I decided to give it a try anyway.

How about you?

Are you willing to open up and give it a try?
What do you tell yourself is possible for your future?
What if something great is in store?

Think about it.

1 year ago

This picture was taken a year ago. I took my kids to Florida on spring break because I was determined to give them amazing experiences, single mom or not.

I refused to believe I couldn’t afford it.
I refused to believe it would be too hard.
I refused to limit what was possible.

So, we loaded up the minivan, took a couple of extra kids along, and packed the cooler with snacks.

I look back now, and I’m so glad I did.

It seems like a lifetime ago and I’m glad we seized the moment.

Things are so different now… like we are almost different people.

In this transition phase of life, things change so rapidly, and personal growth is on hyper speed.

We live in a new state now. My business is twice as big as it was then. I’ve got my ideal business partner. My kids are older, wiser, and stronger than they were then. I’m engaged to an amazing man who I absolutely adore. I’m in love with my life and ecstatic about my future.

How can you seize the day and do something amazing?

What if this phase of life is an opportunity that’s meant to be magical?

What would you do?

Think about it.

Have a beautiful weekend, you deserve it!​

Holiday Jealousy

Christina worries that her kids have more fun with their dad and his new girlfriend over the holidays than they do with her.

It’s really hard for her.

It’s so hard for her that she begins to overextend herself and overspend her budget… to try to win them over.

When they are with their dad, she feels terrible.

She wishes she didn’t feel so jealous, resentful, and inadequate.

The reason she feels that way is that she is making the good relationship with their dad, mean something about their relationship with her.

She thinks if one relationship is amazing, the other one can’t be.

It’s as if there is a relationship budget – only so much happiness and connection to go around.

The truth is that the relationship they have with him, has nothing to do with the relationship they have with her.

They can love him, and they can love her. They can have fun with his girlfriend, and it means absolutely nothing about how her kids feel about her.

And the same is true for you…

If you want to hear more about this topic – CLICK HERE to sign up for my free webinar on Holiday Success for Single Moms. I address 3 main issues that single moms face over the holidays (and how to solve them). It’s totally worth carving out 30 minutes to join me. I’ll even answer your questions live.

Can’t wait to see you then!

Until then, have a beautiful weekend – you deserve it!

-Molly Claire

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he was furious

My son was furious with me this week.

He wanted to do something and I said no.

I didn’t think it was in his best interest at all.

I say yes most of the time – whenever I can.

But this time, it was a no.

He threw a teenage tantrum. He said mean things to me. He was unreasonable and pushing every last limit in the way he was behaving.

And I decided it was okay. I held the line. I drew some personal boundaries for myself and let him freak out in the way he wanted to, as long as it didn’t cross into my space.

Sometimes your kids don’t like what you have to say, and maybe that’s okay.

They can think and feel a lot of negative things about you, and it doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong.

You can stay peaceful, even when they aren’t.

Give it a try.

Have a great day -one thought at a time!

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in love

Last weekend at my daughter’s birthday party I had a beautiful glimpse into what life offers us if we’ll let it.

My friend Sherry was there and she is totally in love.

She got remarried last spring after way too many years of being a mom of 5 totally solo. There was a time when she felt broken, just like you’ve felt too.

My friend Angie hosted the party with her beautiful blended family of 3 years. She and I went through our divorces together and I remember a time that it was so painful for both of us. Wondering what to do, how to get through it, and how to pick up the pieces.

My friend Claire was there looking more confident and grounded than ever. She’s one of the most amazing women I know and it’s been awesome to watch her grow personally post-divorce. I’m so inspired by her, I can’t get over it.

And me? I’ve got some great things happening too 😉

If you’re hurting or sad or hopeless right now – it won’t last forever.

Trust the process of life.

Good things are in store.

The best is yet to come.

I believe.

HEY! By the way – I’ve added a private community for my single mom membership – want to join us? Email me at molly@mollyclaire.com for the details – we’d love to have you.

Have a beautiful weekend!

xo

-Molly Claire