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The “Ideal”

*Friday Love Note* and the “ideal” –

We hear all the time about how to cope when your family isn’t the ideal.

I’m not coping. And I am the ideal. My current ideal that is.

It seems like such a nice and compassionate approach, but when I think about “coping because I’m less than ideal.” I feel immense sadness at the very thought.

I start to believe that my life really is sad. And that something really is wrong with my home situation of me and three amazing kids. I feel like we are lacking.

I don’t believe that’s true.

What I do believe…

Is that with God, we are never lacking. We can have desires to add to our current situation, but to feel our life has a void is painful.

And that my family is the ideal right now. It’s not what I had envisioned, but it’s where I am and where we are. And so of course, it’s exactly as it should be right now.

And finally, I’m loving rather than “coping.” Coping implies that I’m so broken. Yes, some days feel that way, but it doesn’t define my life. I’m growing within these circumstances and loving all of the best parts of them. Coping is a part of it, but it’s not the big picture.

These are some of the most powerful beliefs I have. They sustain me and move me forward. They allow me to trust in the process of life and love what’s good.

Take good care of yourself.

Have an amazing weekend, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire