Yes, Mom. You will survive. I promise.

Someone tell me that I will survive this child.

Someone tell me that there is a way through this.

Someone,anyone, please.

Have you ever felt this way?  I know I have.  This week a friend posted something similar on Facebook.  She was at her wit’s end and feeling desperate.  It was a low point on the roller coaster of motherhood… we’ve all been there.

I remember when my middle child was 6 years old.  His behavior was nothing short of impossible.  His emotional reactions were outside the “normal” range and I had to learn a new way of helping and guiding him.  His extreme anxiety would come out as anger and irrational reactions.  I had to learn what was effective and what wasn’t.  Often, timing was everything.

Thankfully, I found the exact expert I needed for him.  She was intuitive and perfectly matched to help him.  She wasn’t afraid to experiment with things, even when they didn’t turn out as planned.  The thing that really made the difference was that she knew it wasn’t an impossible situation.  She knew there was hope and that progress was possible.  She would think outside the box and she never gave up.

If you knew the exact expert you needed was available, what would you do?  Would you hire her immediately?  Would you entrust her with the situation?  Would you do whatever it took to help your child?

Because, guess what – I know who you need.

YOU.

I was the expert for my child.  Not because I knew everything, but because he was mine.  He was entrusted to me, and for that reason I knew I must be uniquely qualified.  When I could stay in that head-space of believing I could help him – it made all the difference.  I could have clarity as to what other resources might be helpful.  I could try new things and have confidence, even when they didn’t work out as I’d hoped.

I trusted in myself and my mother’s intuition.  I didn’t worry so much about how someone else would handle things, or how someone else might criticize how I wanted to handle it.  It wasn’t about doing it the “right” way, but about doing it the best way.

Most of all, I trusted in my own personal belief that because I was entrusted with him, I was uniquely qualified.

What would happen if you could believe that were true for you?
Would it be okay when things were upside down, if you knew you’d figure it out?
When you were tempted to throw your hands up and say, “help!” could you instead ground yourself in trust?

I believe that the biggest gift in believing that we are uniquely qualified is the clarity and insight we will gain, the peace that comes with it, and the progress that follows.

Share this with a mom who’s at the end of her rope.  Help her at least think about the idea that maybe she’s not doing so bad after all.  Remind her that she is amazing.  YOU are amazing. 

CLICK here for a “Mom Confidence” mini session.  Let’s take 20 minutes to see where you are stuck and help you regain that clarity so you can rock it out as a mom.  Looking forward to talking!

Have a great day – one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire
Life Redesign Coach, Mom’s Best Friend